English: Quicksand! Gravel extraction leaves its mark on the landscape. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
I was just trying to think of a way to describe to Non-BPDs how, the more us Borderlines try to fight our emotions, the stronger they become. I just realized that our feelings are like quicksand. The more we struggle against them, the worse we make it for ourselves. Maybe if they can imagine it this way, they can have more patience and compassion for us when we’re going through a difficult time emotionally.
What do you think? Is anyone going to try explaining it this way to your loved ones? If so, let me know how it worked. I’m very anxious to find out.
Till next time,
Joyce.
1 way I find useful for non BPD’s to understand is tell them to picture this situation ,
You have just realised your keys are locked in the car ,whats the enitial feeling ?
Panic, anger ,until you decide within 10 mins the best thing to do to resolve the situation .
Now us as BPDs get the panic , anger and lots of other emotions like shame guilt BUT 1-2 days later,
we still have the same feelings as if it had just happened .
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I love your analogy too!
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Reblogged this on My Borderline Tale and commented:
Yes! So true!
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