Full title: “Stronger Than BPD: The Girl’s Guide to Taking Control of Intense Emotions, Drama and Chaos Using DBT” by Debbie Corso. Foreword by Gillian Galen, Psy D.
I read the Kindle version of this book and finished it in one day. I could not stop reading it! Debbie shares Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) skills, along with real-word examples from her own life. It is inspiring! I loved this part:
It can be really painful to be in this particular mental space, so it makes sense to me that when we are hurt, we sometimes judge. That way, we can put the blame on someone or something else and make them “wrong” and us “right.” It’s a defense mechanism to reduce the hurt. If that person is a jerk because she forgot to write me down or he’s self-absorbed because he’s canceling our dinner plans, I don’t have to focus too much on the fact that I feel disappointed, sad, and maybe even disrespected, all of which are difficult emotional states to bear when you are sensitive. *
People don’t understand this and think that we are manipulating them and judging on purpose. For me, it wouldn’t even be a conscious decision. We do most of our BPD behaviours automatically. That’s where DBT comes in. While our behaviours can seem automatic, we can practice DBT skills until they also become automatic. Try it for yourself.
There are resources for further information in the back of the book. This book is great for anyone who has Borderline Personality Disorder, BPD traits or emotional sensitivity.
Debbie runs DBT Path, where she teaches DBT skills online, along with a licensed therapist. Check out her site at emotionallysensitive.com
I highly recommend you order this book today and begin doing the exercises in it to change your life for the better. You can purchase it here: https://www.chapters.indigo.ca/en-ca/books/stronger-than-bpd-the-girls/9781626254954-item.html
*Corso, Debbie. Stronger Than BPD: The Girl’s Guide to Taking Control of Intense Emotions, Drama, and Chaos Using DBT (Kindle Locations 570-571). New Harbinger Publications. Kindle Edition.