Full title: “Bullied: What Every Parent, Teacher and Kid Needs to Know About Ending The Cycle of Fear” by Carrie Goldman
I loved this book! Especially this part: “Kesha Burch-Sims…in her Chicago-based clinical psychology practice…told me…’Victims have prolonged difficulty with their own identities and how to fit in and socialize appropriately. They learn behaviors to compensate for their experience of being victims, and these behaviors in adulthood give them trouble. Their adjustment to life is painful.’ ”
This book has some great chapters, including: “The Harmful Effects of Bullying on the Brain” and “Social and Emotional Learning” There are also some great resources at the back of the book.
This book spoke to me because I was bullied all through school. I firmly believe that it greatly contributed to my developing Borderline Personality Disorder. It’s even worse for kids nowadays than it was when I went to school. Nowadays you have cyberbullying 24/7. In my day, for most kids, the bullying ended when you got home from school. Although mine continued. A lot of the kids I went to school with lived in the same town as me and bullied me after school as well. It was all verbal bullying but it totally destroyed my self-esteem. We need books like this to help us deal with bullying.
One day, I was beaten up by the bullies at school. The principal called me, the bullies and our parents to his office and made the bullies apologize. Then he asked me if everything was okay now. I quietly said “Yes.” I was being bullied. What was I going to say? That it wasn’t all right? When people get bullied they have no self-esteem. I wasn’t going to say that it wasn’t all right. I am doing a lot better now, after years of therapy.
I highly recommend this book. It should be in every county library and school library. It would be excellent for parents to purchase. Check it out today!
– – Joyce.