Build Your Own “On the Go” DBT Toolbox


On the Borderline

DBT is a successful therapy that was created to relieve borderline personality disorder symptoms that make life unmanageable. However, others may also benefit from the therapy, and you don’t have to be at your doctors office to use it.

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I designed this guide to be comprehensive, and customizable, so that it would suite each person’s individual needs. The idea to create it for myself came shortly after I searched every nook and cranny of the internet for one. I found a few reference sheets, but none of those provided explanations of how to use skills. While I am not a therapist by any means, the information found below came from a variety of credible sources. I simply broke it down into note cards and projects aid in the learning process.

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The best advice I can give, based on the DBT blueprint, is to at least choose one or two from…

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What Is an Anxious Attachment Style and How Can I Change It? | Happily Imperfect


Source: What Is an Anxious Attachment Style and How Can I Change It? | Happily Imperfect

On The Realities Of Being A Black Woman With Borderline Personality Disorder | The FADER


An excerpt from Do What You Want, a new U.K. zine about mental health.

Source: On The Realities Of Being A Black Woman With Borderline Personality Disorder | The FADER

An Overdue Update on My Son and My Anniversary Is Coming Up


My son is turning 15 this Sunday.  He is supposed to be in Grade 9.  He hasn’t attended school at all this year.  He has anxiety and social anxiety really bad.  He has a tutor that has started coming twice a week last month.  He doesn’t actually see her.  He talks to her through his bedroom door.  He can’t even look her in the eyes for two seconds.  It’s that bad.  He has started medication but it doesn’t seem to be doing anything for him.  I wish he would start getting better.  We’re hoping that he can take some baby steps towards actually meeting his tutor.  She’s really good with him, very patient.

My anniversary is the day after our son’s birthday.  My husband and I will be married for twenty years this Monday!  Wow!  I can hardly believe it’s been that long.  It’s been very rocky at times, but we’ve made it through.  For the last few months, our marriage has been stronger than it has ever been before.  We are talking and communicating more, and I’m feeling more comfortable with myself than I ever have.

I’ll update you on how things go with my son’s tutoring, and his birthday and our anniversary.  Thanks for reading!  Till next time,

— Joyce.

A Surprising, Hidden Cause of Depression | Childhood Emotional Neglect


Source: A Surprising, Hidden Cause of Depression | Childhood Emotional Neglect

Make Friends With Your Core Beliefs | The Whole Self


Source: Make Friends With Your Core Beliefs | The Whole Self

13th Annual Yale NEA-BPD Conference: Prevention and Early Intervention for Borderline Personality Disorder: A GAP Initiative | Clearview Treatment Events


Source: 13th Annual Yale NEA-BPD Conference: Prevention and Early Intervention for Borderline Personality Disorder: A GAP Initiative | Clearview Treatment Events

One Way BPD Gets Stigmatized


As Rose Goes

down_with_stigma_bpd_awarness_buttonsThree times recently, I’ve encountered warnings about the harm that “BPDs” inflict on others. All three times the cautionary advice was offered by someone claiming to be a mental health advocate. On one occasion, the advocate described people with BPD as “manipulative” and “dangerous.” Another said it is common for BPDs to engage in abusive gaslighting (psychological manipulation and control) of those around them. The third, who works at a mental health advocacy legal group, recounted how “those people tear up our new lawyers” and other “unsuspecting” victims.

As someone who suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), I’ve become inured to disparaging and demeaning comments on internet forums in which former lovers demonize ex-girlfriends and boyfriends with BPD, diagnosed or not. These former lovers are in pain so trying to cultivate compassion, while seeking validation for their own difficult experience, is just too nuanced.

However, the trend of mental health professionals callously describing people in…

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GEELONG – Borderline Personality Disorder: A Difficult Diagnosis – Friday 24 March-Events


Source: GEELONG – Borderline Personality Disorder: A Difficult Diagnosis – Friday 24 March-Events

Hope Is Real!: Tips on Navigating The System


Source: Hope Is Real!: Tips on Navigating The System

What I want my Child to Know about being Highly Sensitive. | elephant journal


Source: What I want my Child to Know about being Highly Sensitive. | elephant journal

The “Invisible” Mental Illness: Borderline Personality Disorder – Affinity Magazine | For The Social Teen


Mental illness: for many, a taboo subject- something condemned, never to even be mentioned because God knows what could happen if that information enters the wrong hands. But for others, it is something to embrace, a part

Source: The “Invisible” Mental Illness: Borderline Personality Disorder – Affinity Magazine | For The Social Teen

Healing from Trauma: ‘Comfort & Distract’ | World of Psychology


I was invited into my old IOP group today as a kind of “guest speaker.” If *I* can get better, then anyone can. Seriously. I have carried diagnoses of Major Depression, Borderline, PTSD, and Anorexia Nervosa. And that’s just in the past couple of years. I’ve also (at one-time-or-another) been diagnosed with Bipolar and DID. And those are just the ones that come to mind. There was a woman in the room who looked particularly compromised. I knew right away that she was the one who my group leader had wanted me to address. So he motions to her and asks me to “tell her it can get better.” I looked into her eyes… or I tried. She was crying. She was rocking. She was me. I gave her a brief history of myself, and then told her what I’m going to tell you: It’s not gonna get better today. Or tomorrow. Probably not the next day, either. But it WILL get better. As a nurse, I have spent a large portion of my professional career working with people who have cognitive limitations, and now that *I*

Source: Healing from Trauma: ‘Comfort & Distract’ | World of Psychology

Borderline Personality Disorder Videos – AMI-Quebec


The following videos are included in the powerpoint presentation for AMI-Quebec’s information session Introduction to Borderline Personality Disorder. Please click on the blue links below to view the videos (will open in a new window).  Click HERE for more information about this information session. A new date will be announced …

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Healing Hearts of Families – Council on Recovery


Source: Healing Hearts of Families – Council on Recovery

What Failed to Happen For You as a Child? | Childhood Emotional Neglect


Source: What Failed to Happen For You as a Child? | Childhood Emotional Neglect

Guest Blog Post by Patrick


What BPD is to me.

At my worst, I am careless, recklessness and impulsive. The consequences don’t matter, only the good times you’re enjoying. Until it’s over, you stop can reflect on what has happened and what damage has been done. Then the consequences of your impulsive reckless selfishness do matter and you feel terrible.
This is why you feel that you are understood, why you have such poor self-esteem and are sensitive to even the most constructive of criticisms. You have all the knowledge about your condition and the effect it has on you, but all you want is to be validated. Someone to say that can see all the good things you do, portray you in a positive light and make you feel good about yourself again.
That can only go on for so long, eventually it wears off and you are left alone with your fluctuating moods. You are irritable, the world is unfair, the people you like don’t give you enough of the things you want from them and the only rational response you can come up with is self-harming. That will get me the things I want, I can manipulate people into loving me more and caring for me more that way.
But that is just the excuses and dysfunction that BPD comes with. We have to be aware of why our relationships are so intense and try to better understand our feelings towards ourselves and other people.
Managing your responses and behaviour is incredibly tough, especially when you are feeling tired and vulnerable, but you have be mindful about the stress that you are dealing with and have ways to remove yourself from uncomfortable situations.
You can learn to cope with BPD. You pick up so much about compassion and empathy in observing how other people around you survive.
No matter how perfect someone may seem to be to you, you can’t live your life through them. You have to learn to validate and feel yourself, not rely on nice caring sensitive people to do it for you.
My name is Patrick Flynn. I am 33 years old. I have BPD. My aim is to share my experiences positive and negative as much as possible, to raise awareness about BPD in my community and mental health issues in general.
By encouraging others to get help and support, to better understand people with BPD and how to cope with it as quickly and effectively as possible.
I just want to do what I can to help, if you have BPD or know someone who does, please ask me anything. You can overcome it.
Later,
Pat.

Regulating Your Emotions in Family Conflicts


Nobody makes you fly off the handle or shutdown when you feel rising anger.  You have an urge, you make a choice and you act on it.  All of this can happen in a split second. The question is when d…

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Borderline personality disorder: what it’s like to live with the condition


19-year-old Nikki opens up about her experience with the condition

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What would you want out of a BPD Mom program?


Pride in Madness

My boss has given me permission to begin research in the hopes of creating a program for Mom’s with BPD improve their relationship with their children and themselves. I am preparing a survey and in the meantime, I wanted to reach out here! If you do not already know me, I am a Mom who experiences borderline traits.

There is a lot of research out there that bashes Moms who experience BPD. Resources for Moms with BPD are scarce and I want to change that! If you feel comfortable, please leave a response in the comments below or you can wait for the survey as it is anonymous.

Who am I looking to hear from:

  • Moms who have BPD, borderline traits or believe they have BPD and have never been officially diagnosed.
  • Moms (of any age child)
  • Pregnant, first-time moms
  • Women who would like to be moms

What I would like…

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Amy’s Boarderline World – Borderline Personality Disorder – What I wish I was told – Amy’s Boarderline World


Source: Amy’s Boarderline World – Borderline Personality Disorder – What I wish I was told – Amy’s Boarderline World

17-Year-Old Diana Award Recipient on Fights Against Bullying After Suicide Attempt


“That dark point brought me to such a motivating place,” Mackenzie Murphy tells PEOPLE of her suicide attempt

Source: 17-Year-Old Diana Award Recipient on Fights Against Bullying After Suicide Attempt

This is when It All Gets A Bit Dark | All Mouth, No Spoons


The skills that I’m learning in therapy have actually started to become easier to ingrain in my everyday life. So much so that I find myself being able to subconsciously deal with situations …

Source: This is when It All Gets A Bit Dark | All Mouth, No Spoons

The Road To Recovery – Courant Community


http://www.courant.com/community/manchester/hc-mr-manchester-mental-health-conditions-0215-20170216-story.html

Borderline Personality Disorder Doesn’t Mean ‘Crazy’, It Means Wearing Your Heart On Your Sleeve Every Day | Thought Catalog


I don’t know if Angelina Jolie or Amy Winehouse have/had BPD or not but I believe that Princess Diana and Marilyn Monroe both suffered from the disorder.

— Joyce.

 

My greatest apologies go out to those who I’ve lost due to my disorder because they didn’t deserve it. Just like a diabetic is responsible for checking their blood sugar, I am responsible for check…

Source: Borderline Personality Disorder Doesn’t Mean ‘Crazy’, It Means Wearing Your Heart On Your Sleeve Every Day | Thought Catalog