Fight the stigma associated with BPD!: Dealing with abandonment

Source: Fight the stigma associated with BPD!: Dealing with abandonment

Healing From BPD – Borderline Personality Disorder Blog: Fear of Real or Imagined Abandonment & BPD

Source: Healing From BPD – Borderline Personality Disorder Blog: Fear of Real or Imagined Abandonment & BPD

HealingFromBPD.org – Borderline Personality Disorder Blog: 3 Ways To Handle Feelings Of Abandonment When A Loved One Travels

Source: HealingFromBPD.org – Borderline Personality Disorder Blog: 3 Ways To Handle Feelings Of Abandonment When A Loved One Travels

Taming Your Outer Child: Overcoming Self-Sabotage & Healing from Abandonment | Psych Central

Taming Your Outer Child: Overcoming Self-Sabotage & Healing from Abandonment | Psych Central.

Fear of Being Alone and BPD

Fear of Being Alone and BPD.

Sunny Spells and Scattered Showers: Alone time

Sunny Spells and Scattered Showers: Alone time.

New wings to fly: BPD and relationships

New wings to fly: BPD and relationships.

Please, Please Don’t Leave Me!…The Borderline’s Plea

Friends – New and Old

My daughter gave me a makeover a little while ago.  When I went to the Peer Support Centre, I got a lot of compliments on it.  Today, a friend at the Centre gave me a gift bag.  One of the items inside was some make-up.  I’d like to try taking better care of myself, if I can find the energy somehow.

I used to have pierced ears but I haven’t worn earrings for a few years and they’ve healed over on me.  I need to get them done again as soon as possible so I can start wearing earrings again.  I love wearing big dangly ones.  They make me feel so glamorous.  I love to feel like Marilyn Monroe!

There were also some hairbands in the gift bag my friend gave me.  I need to wash my hair more often.  I need to pick up some bubble bath and scented candles so I can have a bit more incentive to take care of me better.

Someday, I’ll have clean hair, my new hairband in my hair, make-up on, earrings in.  I’ll feel so good about myself.  All I need is some energy to start.  Which I’ve been waiting for for years.  I try so hard to do all the right things – walking, taking my meds, etc.  Nothing ever works.

A few years ago, I lost some weight and felt so good about myself.  Then my friend left town without telling me.  Can you say abandonment?  This was at Christmas.  I cried for weeks.  My husband said that I ruined Christmas.  I never realized that that’s what it was about until earlier this year.  It just hit me.  I’ve learned so much about myself this past year.

I’m hoping to accomplish some “taking care of me” stuff this weekend.  It’s supposed to storm all weekend so I might as well.  Wish me luck,

– Joyce.

My Experience with BPD and HPD Part 1

http://thebpdlife.blogspot.ca/2013/07/my-experience-with-bpd-and-hpd-part-1.html

Kikastrophe: [Abandonment]

Kikastrophe: [Abandonment].

Abandonment and Borderline Personality Disorder: How it Feels

Abandonment and Borderline Personality Disorder: How it Feels.

Abandonment Issues in Those Diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder – Yahoo! Voices – voices.yahoo.com

Abandonment Issues in Those Diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder – Yahoo! Voices – voices.yahoo.com.

Articles and Handouts – BPD Central

Very in-depth article.  Includes poems and accounts from BPD sufferers.  Trigger warning on page.

Articles and Handouts – BPD Central.

Overcoming One of My Biggest Regrets From When BPD Ruled My Life

By Debbie Corso of Healing From BPD.org.  Very powerful and inspiring piece.  Possible Trigger Warning.

http://www.my-borderline-personality-disorder.com/2013/05/overcoming-one-of-my-biggest-regrets.html

Challenging Distorted Thinking

Debbie Corso from HealingFromBPD.org shares this video on saving yourself from unnecessary suffering through distorted thinking.

Hallmarks of BPD

From BPD Central.  This article describes the hallmarks of Borderline Personality Disorder, with some great examples to illustrate.

http://www.bpdcentral.com/borderline-disorder/hallmarks-of-bpd/

Early “Empty Nest Syndrome”

Empty Nest Syndrome (Photo credit: cindy47452)

Fears of Abandonment

I’ve read tons of other people’s blogs about their BPD and how they push their friends away before they get a chance to abandon them.  I don’t even let people get close enough to become friends, I’m so terrified of getting hurt.  I have several acquaintances.

When I was in high school, I got teased by everyone, all the time.  There were a few people who I thought were my friends, but they were just making fun of me behind my back.  I swore I’d never let that happen again, and I haven’t.

Except for one time.

Deception and the Borderline Personality: What Could have Been?

Social Behavioral Patterns--How to Understand Culture and Behaviors

I know that you believe the things you are seeing and hearing are true representations of reality that contributes meaning to behavior observed in others and situations. In fact, if someone questioned the validity of the events and things happening within the context of immediate relationship, family, or social interaction, you would probably would not accept it and most likely would believe the questions would appear out of character. To suggest that there is a large gap in meaning of events that you do not understand between appearance and reality would not seem possible. However, consider for a moment the possibility that there are things not understood that you do not know about pointing to an incomprehensible pervasive pattern of behavior consistent with a personality disorder. There is no doubt that a important issue to consider is how little that most people actually know about mental health and personality disorders…

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