Tag Archives: black-and-white thinking

Noticing My Black-and-White Thinking

For quite a while now, I’ve been taking notice of my black-and-white thinking patterns.  Especially when it comes to housework.  I get so overwhelmed, and then I tell myself I don’t have to do it all right now.  I can do it in stages – a little bit at a time.  It’ll still get done.  This helps a lot.  Right now, I’m chipping away at our laundry.  We were without a dryer for the first time in twenty years and just recently got a used one.  The laundry had piled up while I was going to the laundromat.  I’m getting it caught up slowly but surely.  This is just one area of my life where I’ve noticed my black-and-white thinking.  There are many other times that I’ve noticed myself doing all-or-nothing thinking.  But once I notice it, I can do something about it.

Have you noticed yourself doing black-and-white or all-or-nothing thinking?  Have you made any progress in that area?  What have you done to make progress?  Please share in the Comments below.  Till next time,

— Joyce.

An Episode of Black-and-White Thinking

The other night, I noticed I was having an episode of black-and-white thinking.  I had a headache and was wondering if I should take something for it.  The dentist had given me a prescription for Tylenol 3 with Codeine for any possible pain I may have from having a few teeth extracted.  My mouth wasn’t too sore, but combined with the headache and I really needed to get some sleep, I thought that maybe I should try something.  Should I take the Tylenol 3 or just try to get to sleep without it?

Then I remembered that we did have some other Tylenol in the house that didn’t have Codeine in it.  It didn’t have to be all-or-nothing, either take the Tylenol 3 or don’t take anything.  The other Tylenol was Ultra Tylenol, Migraine-Strength with my husband takes for his occasional migraines which works for him, so I decided to take that.

Such a simple thing, but one of many things that come up in daily life where we may have black-and white, all-or-nothing thinking.

What examples do you have of black-and-white, all-or-nothing thinking?  What did you do in the situation?  Please comment below!

Borderline Personality Disorder, Spiritualism and Healing: Consequences of splitting

Borderline Personality Disorder, Spiritualism and Healing: Consequences of splitting.

New wings to fly: Its either perfect or not worth it

New wings to fly: Its either perfect or not worth it.

New Profile Pic

I have just changed my Profile Picture.  It is now black-and-white, morphing into colour.  I have also added a line to my “About Me” Page.  It reads:  “I would like to see things less in black-and-white, and more in lots of colours.”  What do you think?  Do you like the new pic?  What do you think of the “black-and-white to colour” analogy? Please comment below!


– Joyce.

All about borderline personality disorder and mental health issues. : Coping with BPD

All about borderline personality disorder and mental health issues. : Coping with BPD.

Problem with Perfectionism: To “C” or Not to “C” (That is the question)

Another excellent post by Debbie Corso of HealingFromBPD.org:


Includes a video.  Possible TRIGGER WARNING.

10 Signs your Mind is NOT your Friend | NLP Discoveries

10 Signs your Mind is NOT your Friend | NLP Discoveries.

The curse of black and white thinking

A woman with Borderline Personality Disorder describes what it’s like to struggle with the difficulties of black and white thinking and how she deals with it every day.  Her husband’s view, The Black and White Thinking of Borderline Personality Disorder, follows.


The Black and White Thinking of Borderline Personality Disorder

A BPD sufferer’s husband tells what it’s like to live with a wife with Borderline Personality Disorder:


Overcoming One of My Biggest Regrets From When BPD Ruled My Life

By Debbie Corso of Healing From BPD.org.  Very powerful and inspiring piece.  Possible Trigger Warning.


Video Post on Emotional Regulation After a Crisis

What a Lemonade Ad Can Teach About BPD Symptoms

Becky Oberg from More Than Borderline talks about the “black-and-white” thinking of people with BPD and how it can present itself in our everyday lives, and how to learn to see the gray.


Hallmarks of BPD

From BPD Central.  This article describes the hallmarks of Borderline Personality Disorder, with some great examples to illustrate.


Emotions are not just black and white …

fed up of the crazy

People like me struggle with regulating emotions, it is like being on a roller coaster you can not stop.  People around you get wip lash from the swing and they often complain … but then fail to fully comprehend the internal chaos that I am going through.

For me, emotion is/was either neutral – not being happy or sad, to overpowering crazy anger that was unstoppable.  My internal chaos meant that I would bottle things up and get angry at something some one did or said, until I would explode at my husband sometimes without warning.

From normal me, to super bitch me in 5 seconds is not that easy to keep up with.

Once you are stuck in emotion mind, the intense anger would spiral.  I would use that as a way to make myself feel guilty, and worthless and so I would get even more angry.  I would…

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Deception and the Borderline Personality: What Could have Been?

Symptoms of BPD

An in-depth article by Catherine Taylor on Borderline Personality Disorder and her personal struggle with it. Please read:


Shades of Gray

People with Borderline Personality Disorder see everything in black or white.  We have trouble seeing shades of gray.  Does anyone here “make things fit” so they can be either black or white, because it has to make sense to you that way?  I’m very interested to hear what everyone has to say.

Black/White Interpersonal Relationships and Borderline Behavior

Here is an article on Black/White Interpersonal Relationships and Borderline Behaviour: