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Review: Borderline Personality Disorder: In Our Own Words

Full title:  Borderline Personality Disorder:  In Our Own Words – An Educational Resource From Emotions Matter, Inc.

This is a spiral-bound booklet produced by Emotions Matter.  Inside, you’ll find lots of great information as well as personal stories by five people with BPD.  There are many excellent resources throughout the book.  I think you will find this publication very helpful.  It would be really handy to refer to often.  The perfect size for your purse or bag.  It includes emergency information.

I like that this booklet contains stories of people with BPD, not just facts.  It always helps to hear about others like yourself.  Especially with something like Borderline Personality Disorder that you don’t hear much about.  You can feel very alone.  Hearing others’ stories makes you feel much less alone.  Hearing about how they cope may give you some ideas of how to cope yourself.  It gives you hope that things can always get better.

Here are a few of the topics covered in this book:

  • How did you feel when you were first diagnosed with BPD?
  • How would you describe BPD to someone newly diagnosed?
  • How does BPD impact your behaviors and how you function on a daily basis?

Find the answers to these and more questions inside.

For more information on Emotions Matter, go to:  www.emotionsmatterbpd.org or email them at:  info@emotionsmatterbpd.org

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Book Review: Bullied

Full title:  “Bullied:  What Every Parent, Teacher and Kid Needs to Know About Ending The Cycle of Fear” by Carrie Goldman

I loved this book!  Especially this part:  “Kesha Burch-Sims…in her Chicago-based clinical psychology practice…told me…’Victims have prolonged difficulty with their own identities and how to fit in and socialize appropriately.  They learn behaviors to compensate for their experience of being victims, and these behaviors in adulthood give them trouble.  Their adjustment to life is painful.’ ”

This book has some great chapters, including:  “The Harmful Effects of Bullying on the Brain” and “Social and Emotional Learning”  There are also some great resources at the back of the book.

This book spoke to me because I was bullied all through school.  I firmly believe that it greatly contributed to my developing Borderline Personality Disorder.  It’s even worse for kids nowadays than it was when I went to school.  Nowadays you have cyberbullying 24/7.  In my day, for most kids, the bullying ended when you got home from school.  Although mine continued.  A lot of the kids I went to school with lived in the same town as me and bullied me after school as well.  It was all verbal bullying but it totally destroyed my self-esteem.  We need books like this to help us deal with bullying.

One day, I was beaten up by the bullies at school.  The principal called me, the bullies and our parents to his office and made the bullies apologize.  Then he asked me if everything was okay now.  I quietly said “Yes.”  I was being bullied.  What was I going to say?  That it wasn’t all right?  When people get bullied they have no self-esteem.  I wasn’t going to say that it wasn’t all right.  I am doing a lot better now, after years of therapy.

I highly recommend this book.  It should be in every county library and school library.  It would be excellent for parents to purchase.  Check it out today!

Buy it here:  https://www.amazon.ca/Bullied-Every-Parent-Teacher-Ending/dp/0062105086/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1507262757&sr=1-1

– – Joyce.

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Book Review – Soothe Yourself: Learning Emotional Self-Regulation

Full title:  “Soothe Yourself: Learning Emotional Self-Regulation: For People with Anxiety, Depression, NPD, BPD, IED, SPD, Bipolar, ADHD, ASPD, AVPD, and ASD (Transcend Mediocrity Book 88)” Kindle Edition

I have this book on Kindle and audiobook download.  I have just read the Kindle version.  It is really good.  It talks a lot about where emotional self-dysregulation comes from and provides some help on the subject.  I would have liked for it to provide a few more examples, such as some relaxation exercises, but other than that, this is an excellent book.  I recommend it to anyone with BPD or any of the other conditions listed.

There is a link at the end of the book to the author’s publication company.  It does not work.

I really liked some of the information about where self-dysregulation comes from, and the tips provided.  I’m going to check out the audiobook version and do a review on it next.  Stay tuned for that!  Till next time,

— Joyce.

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Book Review: “Stronger Than BPD” by Debbie Corso

Full title:  “Stronger Than BPD:  The Girl’s Guide to Taking Control of Intense Emotions, Drama and Chaos Using DBT” by Debbie Corso.  Foreword by Gillian Galen, Psy D.

I read the Kindle version of this book and finished it in one day.  I could not stop reading it!  Debbie shares Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) skills, along with real-word examples from her own life.  It is inspiring!  I loved this part:

It can be really painful to be in this particular mental space, so it makes sense to me that when we are hurt, we sometimes judge. That way, we can put the blame on someone or something else and make them “wrong” and us “right.” It’s a defense mechanism to reduce the hurt. If that person is a jerk because she forgot to write me down or he’s self-absorbed because he’s canceling our dinner plans, I don’t have to focus too much on the fact that I feel disappointed, sad, and maybe even disrespected, all of which are difficult emotional states to bear when you are sensitive. *

People don’t understand this and think that we are manipulating them and judging on purpose.  For me, it wouldn’t even be a conscious decision.  We do most of our BPD behaviours automatically.  That’s where DBT comes in.  While our behaviours can seem automatic, we can practice DBT skills until they also become automatic.  Try it for yourself.

There are resources for further information in the back of the book.  This book is great for anyone who has Borderline Personality Disorder, BPD traits or emotional sensitivity.

Debbie runs DBT Path, where she teaches DBT skills online, along with a licensed therapist.  Check out her site at emotionallysensitive.com

I highly recommend you order this book today and begin doing the exercises in it to  change your life for the better.  You can purchase it here:  https://www.chapters.indigo.ca/en-ca/books/stronger-than-bpd-the-girls/9781626254954-item.html

and here:  https://www.amazon.ca/Stronger-Than-BPD-Control-Emotions-ebook/dp/B01LW8UZVX/

*Corso, Debbie. Stronger Than BPD: The Girl’s Guide to Taking Control of Intense Emotions, Drama, and Chaos Using DBT (Kindle Locations 570-571). New Harbinger Publications. Kindle Edition.

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Book Review: Walking The Borderline: The Psychology Patient

By Karen Marrs.

Mrs. Marrs is a fascinating woman.  She has been through an awful lot but is managing to live with Borderline Personality Disorder.  She runs a blog called Walking The Borderline at:  http://www.walkingtheborderline.com  I won’t spoil the book for you by telling you everything that happens but I will say that if I wasn’t reading the Kindle version on my desktop computer, I’d hardly have been able to put it down.  There’s heartbreak but triumph in there.

Many people with BPD have trouble with relationships.  Mrs. Marrs has very unique relationships with her husband and other people in her life.  It works for her and them.  You’ll have to read it to understand.

I follow Mrs. Marrs’ blog and find it, and her book, compelling reading.  I’m sure you will too.  Check it out.  You can find her book here.

Book Review: “Coping With BPD”

Full title:  “Coping with BPD:  DBT and CBT Skills to Soothe the Symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder” by Blaise Aguirre, MD and Gillian Galen, PsyD.  Foreword by Alec Miller, PsyD.

What I really liked about this book is the sections that show what each item looks like in real life.  There are a few items in here that I can really use, such as the parts on Paranoia, Mood-Dependent Behavior, Procrastination, Negative Self-Thoughts, Living In The Past or Future and Invalidating Yourself.

This is an excellent book to refer to any time you’re unsure of what to do with intense emotions and symptoms of BPD.  You just turn to whatever item you’re having trouble with and there it describes The Problem, What It Looks Like, The Practice and then there’s a helpful checklist at the end of each item.

Dr. Aguirre runs McLean 3East, a DBT program for women with BPD.  He has also written Borderline Personality Disorder in Adolescents and co-written Mindfulness for Borderline Personality Disorder.

Gillian Galen has co-authored Mindfulness for Borderline Personality Disorder.  She also helps run McLean 3East.

Alec Miller is an expert in BPD, Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), and much more.  He has written many things, including Dialectical Behavior Therapy with Suicidal Adolescents.

Pick up a copy of this book today and start relieving yourself of the symptoms of BPD!

Book Review – The Angry Heart

The Angry HeartFull title:  “The Angry Heart:  Overcoming Borderline and Addictive Disorders” by Joseph Santoro, Ph.D. and Ronald Cohen, Ph.D.

This is a pretty good book.  My favourite parts were the stories of “Samuel” interspersed throughout each chapter.  (The name has been changed to protect his identity.)  This book has information that the authors have come up with regarding different “zones” in the Borderline’s life.  There are exercises to do to help your overcome your Borderline and addictive behaviours.  There are boxes of short materials to read in each chapter to get a better understanding of BPD and addictive disorders.  These would be very helpful to review.

I would have liked to have read about some of the therapies out there for BPD such as Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), a trusted and proven therapy.  All in all, not a bad book to learn about these disorders and how to recover from them.

— Joyce.

Book Review: “Borderline Personality Disorder: New Reasons for Hope”

By Francis Mark Mondimore, M.D., and Patrick Kelly, M.D.

This book goes into great detail about many aspects of BPD.  It talks about what personality is, and what personality disorders are.  It goes over what the causes and treatments for BPD are, including medication and different types of therapy for Borderline Personality Disorder, including Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT).  There is a section for parents, partners, friends and co-workers of people with Borderline Personality Disorder.  At the end of the book is a summary of the previous chapters.  It also talks about other disorders which one may be misdiagnosed with instead of BPD.  You may actually suffer from more than one disorder at a time.

It goes on to discuss different behaviours that may be displayed by those with the disorder and how to cope with them.  It talks about how your personal history may have created the disorder in you, and different theories that may explain this.

It talks about how gender affects BPD, and about BPD in adolescence, and also how the disorder is manifested in different cultures around the world.

If you’d like a book with lots of detail on all aspects of BPD, this is a good one to pick up.

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Book Review: “Borderline Personality Disorder Explained”

E-book by Martin Guessmann.

This book is not too bad for a brief overview of BPD.  There were quite a few typos.  It had a pretty good description of the symptoms/criteria.  It didn’t portray Borderlines in a negative light, which is good.

The author has provided some resources at the end of the book, which is very helpful.  I have read some of them myself and they are pretty interesting reading.

As someone in recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder, I may recommend this book to others.  Check out my other book reviews here.

Keep your eyes peeled for more book reviews in the future.

– Joyce.

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BOOK REVIEW: “Object Permanence and Borderline Personality Disorder”


E-book by Dr. Robert Fischer, M.D., Paul Sanbar and Rebecca Deleon.  Dr. Fischer is the Executive Director of the Optimum Performance Institute / Roanne Program.

This book uses a mirror analogy to explain Object Permanence.  It is a very good analogy.  Reading this short e-book will help you understand the idea of Object Permanence and how it relates to Borderline Personality Disorder.  I would recommend it to anyone wanting to learn more about the subject.

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