Full title: “Bullied: What Every Parent, Teacher and Kid Needs to Know About Ending The Cycle of Fear” by Carrie Goldman
I loved this book! Especially this part: “Kesha Burch-Sims…in her Chicago-based clinical psychology practice…told me…’Victims have prolonged difficulty with their own identities and how to fit in and socialize appropriately. They learn behaviors to compensate for their experience of being victims, and these behaviors in adulthood give them trouble. Their adjustment to life is painful.’ ”
This book has some great chapters, including: “The Harmful Effects of Bullying on the Brain” and “Social and Emotional Learning” There are also some great resources at the back of the book.
This book spoke to me because I was bullied all through school. I firmly believe that it greatly contributed to my developing Borderline Personality Disorder. It’s even worse for kids nowadays than it was when I went to school. Nowadays you have cyberbullying 24/7. In my day, for most kids, the bullying ended when you got home from school. Although mine continued. A lot of the kids I went to school with lived in the same town as me and bullied me after school as well. It was all verbal bullying but it totally destroyed my self-esteem. We need books like this to help us deal with bullying.
One day, I was beaten up by the bullies at school. The principal called me, the bullies and our parents to his office and made the bullies apologize. Then he asked me if everything was okay now. I quietly said “Yes.” I was being bullied. What was I going to say? That it wasn’t all right? When people get bullied they have no self-esteem. I wasn’t going to say that it wasn’t all right. I am doing a lot better now, after years of therapy.
I highly recommend this book. It should be in every county library and school library. It would be excellent for parents to purchase. Check it out today!
Buy it here: https://www.amazon.ca/Bullied-Every-Parent-Teacher-Ending/dp/0062105086/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1507262757&sr=1-1
– – Joyce.
Full title: “Soothe Yourself: Learning Emotional Self-Regulation: For People with Anxiety, Depression, NPD, BPD, IED, SPD, Bipolar, ADHD, ASPD, AVPD, and ASD (Transcend Mediocrity Book 88)” Kindle Edition
I have this book on Kindle and audiobook download. I have just read the Kindle version. It is really good. It talks a lot about where emotional self-dysregulation comes from and provides some help on the subject. I would have liked for it to provide a few more examples, such as some relaxation exercises, but other than that, this is an excellent book. I recommend it to anyone with BPD or any of the other conditions listed.
There is a link at the end of the book to the author’s publication company. It does not work.
I really liked some of the information about where self-dysregulation comes from, and the tips provided. I’m going to check out the audiobook version and do a review on it next. Stay tuned for that! Till next time,
Full title: “Stronger Than BPD: The Girl’s Guide to Taking Control of Intense Emotions, Drama and Chaos Using DBT” by Debbie Corso. Foreword by Gillian Galen, Psy D.
I read the Kindle version of this book and finished it in one day. I could not stop reading it! Debbie shares Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) skills, along with real-word examples from her own life. It is inspiring! I loved this part:
It can be really painful to be in this particular mental space, so it makes sense to me that when we are hurt, we sometimes judge. That way, we can put the blame on someone or something else and make them “wrong” and us “right.” It’s a defense mechanism to reduce the hurt. If that person is a jerk because she forgot to write me down or he’s self-absorbed because he’s canceling our dinner plans, I don’t have to focus too much on the fact that I feel disappointed, sad, and maybe even disrespected, all of which are difficult emotional states to bear when you are sensitive. *
People don’t understand this and think that we are manipulating them and judging on purpose. For me, it wouldn’t even be a conscious decision. We do most of our BPD behaviours automatically. That’s where DBT comes in. While our behaviours can seem automatic, we can practice DBT skills until they also become automatic. Try it for yourself.
There are resources for further information in the back of the book. This book is great for anyone who has Borderline Personality Disorder, BPD traits or emotional sensitivity.
Debbie runs DBT Path, where she teaches DBT skills online, along with a licensed therapist. Check out her site at emotionallysensitive.com
I highly recommend you order this book today and begin doing the exercises in it to change your life for the better. You can purchase it here: https://www.chapters.indigo.ca/en-ca/books/stronger-than-bpd-the-girls/9781626254954-item.html
and here: https://www.amazon.ca/Stronger-Than-BPD-Control-Emotions-ebook/dp/B01LW8UZVX/
*Corso, Debbie. Stronger Than BPD: The Girl’s Guide to Taking Control of Intense Emotions, Drama, and Chaos Using DBT (Kindle Locations 570-571). New Harbinger Publications. Kindle Edition.
By Karen Marrs.
Mrs. Marrs is a fascinating woman. She has been through an awful lot but is managing to live with Borderline Personality Disorder. She runs a blog called Walking The Borderline at: http://www.walkingtheborderline.com I won’t spoil the book for you by telling you everything that happens but I will say that if I wasn’t reading the Kindle version on my desktop computer, I’d hardly have been able to put it down. There’s heartbreak but triumph in there.
Many people with BPD have trouble with relationships. Mrs. Marrs has very unique relationships with her husband and other people in her life. It works for her and them. You’ll have to read it to understand.
I follow Mrs. Marrs’ blog and find it, and her book, compelling reading. I’m sure you will too. Check it out. You can find her book here.
Full title: “Coping with BPD: DBT and CBT Skills to Soothe the Symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder” by Blaise Aguirre, MD and Gillian Galen, PsyD. Foreword by Alec Miller, PsyD.
What I really liked about this book is the sections that show what each item looks like in real life. There are a few items in here that I can really use, such as the parts on Paranoia, Mood-Dependent Behavior, Procrastination, Negative Self-Thoughts, Living In The Past or Future and Invalidating Yourself.
This is an excellent book to refer to any time you’re unsure of what to do with intense emotions and symptoms of BPD. You just turn to whatever item you’re having trouble with and there it describes The Problem, What It Looks Like, The Practice and then there’s a helpful checklist at the end of each item.
Dr. Aguirre runs McLean 3East, a DBT program for women with BPD. He has also written Borderline Personality Disorder in Adolescents and co-written Mindfulness for Borderline Personality Disorder.
Gillian Galen has co-authored Mindfulness for Borderline Personality Disorder. She also helps run McLean 3East.
Alec Miller is an expert in BPD, Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), and much more. He has written many things, including Dialectical Behavior Therapy with Suicidal Adolescents.
Pick up a copy of this book today and start relieving yourself of the symptoms of BPD!
Full title: “The Angry Heart: Overcoming Borderline and Addictive Disorders” by Joseph Santoro, Ph.D. and Ronald Cohen, Ph.D.
This is a pretty good book. My favourite parts were the stories of “Samuel” interspersed throughout each chapter. (The name has been changed to protect his identity.) This book has information that the authors have come up with regarding different “zones” in the Borderline’s life. There are exercises to do to help your overcome your Borderline and addictive behaviours. There are boxes of short materials to read in each chapter to get a better understanding of BPD and addictive disorders. These would be very helpful to review.
I would have liked to have read about some of the therapies out there for BPD such as Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), a trusted and proven therapy. All in all, not a bad book to learn about these disorders and how to recover from them.
By Francis Mark Mondimore, M.D., and Patrick Kelly, M.D.
This book goes into great detail about many aspects of BPD. It talks about what personality is, and what personality disorders are. It goes over what the causes and treatments for BPD are, including medication and different types of therapy for Borderline Personality Disorder, including Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT). There is a section for parents, partners, friends and co-workers of people with Borderline Personality Disorder. At the end of the book is a summary of the previous chapters. It also talks about other disorders which one may be misdiagnosed with instead of BPD. You may actually suffer from more than one disorder at a time.
It goes on to discuss different behaviours that may be displayed by those with the disorder and how to cope with them. It talks about how your personal history may have created the disorder in you, and different theories that may explain this.
It talks about how gender affects BPD, and about BPD in adolescence, and also how the disorder is manifested in different cultures around the world.
If you’d like a book with lots of detail on all aspects of BPD, this is a good one to pick up.
E-book by Martin Guessmann.
This book is not too bad for a brief overview of BPD. There were quite a few typos. It had a pretty good description of the symptoms/criteria. It didn’t portray Borderlines in a negative light, which is good.
The author has provided some resources at the end of the book, which is very helpful. I have read some of them myself and they are pretty interesting reading.
As someone in recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder, I may recommend this book to others. Check out my other book reviews here.
Keep your eyes peeled for more book reviews in the future.
E-book by Dr. Robert Fischer, M.D., Paul Sanbar and Rebecca Deleon. Dr. Fischer is the Executive Director of the Optimum Performance Institute / Roanne Program.
This book uses a mirror analogy to explain Object Permanence. It is a very good analogy. Reading this short e-book will help you understand the idea of Object Permanence and how it relates to Borderline Personality Disorder. I would recommend it to anyone wanting to learn more about the subject.
Full title: “Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and Change” by Valerie Porr, M.A.
Ms. Porr is the founder of TARA (Treatment and Research Advancement National Association for Personality Disorder)
I really enjoyed this book. I found it to be very detailed in its content regarding Dialectical Behaviour Therapy. It also included a chapter on Mentalization-based Therapy. I found it very compassionate towards those with BPD. I would definitely recommend this book to anyone wanting to know more about Borderline Personality Disorder or DBT. I found it very validating towards BPD sufferers. I could hardly put it down.
This book reviewed everything that I learned in my DBT program several years ago, and then some. An excellent guide to building a “life worth living” as Dr. Marsha Linehan, creator of DBT, says.
Have you read this book? If so, what did you think of it? Did you find it helpful? Please comment below. Are there any other books that you’ve read that you would recommend to me and my readers?
Titles: “And This Is My Adopted Daughter” and “Crossing The Borderline: Inside A Therapeutic Community” by Polly Fielding
The first book describes Polly’s life being brought up by a very invalidating adoptive mother. No matter how hard she tries to please her, she never succeeds. At first, things are fine, then they turn sour. Her father is no help to her. Polly always comes in second to her mother’s “real” daughter. They adopt another baby, further invalidating Polly. She tries to raise her kids to feel the love that she never felt from her adopted mother. She attempts to find her biological mother. I won’t spoil for you what happens but you’ll want to find out for yourself.
The second book looks at her life inside a Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) program. She uses a lot of mindfulness throughout the book. It doesn’t use a lot of the same techniques that we used in my DBT program, but it was interesting to read about Polly’s experience in therapy.
In both books, I could feel Polly’s sadness from such an upbringing. By the end of the second book, Polly emerges triumphantly from the clutches of mental illness, still fighting but now knowing some tools to help her in the fight for wellness.
These books are a very hard read at times and may be triggering, so read with caution. If you really want to know what it’s like to live with Borderline Personality Disorder, this book will show you. It’s not for the faint of heart, though.
Full Title: “7 Healthy Habits for BPD Sufferers: A 7 Step System Series: (BPD, Borderline Personality Disorder, Codependent relationships, borderlines, borderline mother, … OCPD, abuse) (Transcend Mediocrity Book 5)” [Kindle Edition]
This book has some pretty good advice in it. Some things that are just common sense for anyone if you think about it. The last couple of habits are the best ones, I think. But they may be a little hard to follow if you’re in the throes of Borderline Personality Disorder.
One of the most effective treatments, the one that helped me recover, is Dialectical Behaviour Therapy or DBT for short. It was developed by Dr. Marsha Linehan, herself a recovered BPD sufferer. They should have had more on treatment such as this in the book. DBT would help sufferers with the other five habits in the book.
All in all, not a bad book. It has some merit. It was a free download for me, from Amazon so nothing ventured, nothing gained. Go ahead and check it out if you wish. Here is a link where you can download it from Amazon.co.uk or Amazon.com: http://www.philipsmith.eu/free-kindle-book/25ffab47-6b51-4955-927f-7d64d14e2a43
Book Written by Debbie Corso of HealingFromBPD.org
I purchased this book quite a while ago, but just got around to reading it now. Here is my review on Smashwords:
Debbie has done it again! She has done an amazing job of gathering together in one place several DBT skills and made them into an impressive challenge. If you follow this 31-day challenge, it will change your life. Thanks for doing such a wonderful job with this book. I highly recommend it to anyone suffering from BPD, or in recovery and wanting to continue to practice the skills.
Full title: “The Everything Guide To Borderline Personality Disorder: Professional, reassuring advice for coping with the disorder and breaking the destructive cycle” by Constance M. Dolecki, MS, PhDC
I think that this book was written more for people without the disorder to learn how to cope with people suffering from BPD. In my opinion, it concentrates too much on anger issues, making it seem like Borderlines are angry all the time. We can be, if triggered, the same as anyone else. What’s different, I think, is that once we get triggered into anger, it’s much harder for us to come down from it. Therapy can help us with that, which is covered in this book. There are case studies demonstrating, for those without the disorder, what BPD is like. But I believe it shows what it is like through their eyes, not from those with the disorder. Then it goes on to tell what the person with BPD should have done instead. I like books that tell what it’s like from the BPD sufferer’s point of view. Then, those without the disorder can see what it’s really like for us and maybe have more compassion.
There is a lot of great information here. I would have liked to have read some stories from BPD sufferers themselves but there are other books for that. All in all, not a bad book. I’d take all the useful information from it but check out other books as well.
Full title: “The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need To Know About Living With BPD” by Alexander L. Chapman, Ph.D and Kim L. Gratz, Ph.D Forward by Perry D. Hoffman, Ph.D, President of the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder.
This book explained BPD and even explained a bit about Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), the treatment of choice for Borderline Personality Disorder. It’s the treatment that helped me recover. I like how, included in each chapter, were examples of what it’s like living with BPD. There are even some great exercises to try to help you cope with your emotions.
I really enjoyed this book. I think the author has a very good understanding of BPD for someone without the disorder. He included lots of examples of things such as Validation and how important it is to people with BPD. It was written with lots of compassion for sufferers. It tells you how to relate to people with the disorder in ways that will enhance your relationship. I would definitely recommend this book to loved ones of Borderline Personality Disorder sufferers.
BOOK REVIEW: “Don’t Let Your Emotions Run Your Life – How Dialectical Behaviour Therapy Can Put You in Control” by Scott E. Spradlin, MA
This workbook has lots of excellent exercises. I would highly recommend it to anyone with Borderline Personality Disorder or who just wants to manage their emotions better. It has several sections, each going into detail about a different part of DBT. This would be a great book to work with with your therapist, or you could try to do the exercises on your own if you don’t have a therapist. You can make copies of the exercises if you need more than one copy, which might be helpful to get as much practice as possible with learning the new skills.
Full title: “get me out of here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder”
This book follows Rachel through four years of seeing her psychiatrist. It gives an understanding of what people with Borderline Personality Disorder’s thinking patterns are like. It traces her progress from when she first meets Dr. Padgett to when she is finally ready to end therapy, using the knowledge she has gained about herself.
Along with BPD, Rachel also suffers from an eating disorder and other self-sabotaging behaviours such as substance abuse and being promiscuous.
The book flows along at a fairly steady pace, keeping the reader engaged.
You can purchase Rachel’s book here: http://www.chapters.indigo.ca/books/get-me-out-of-here/9781592850990-item.html?ikwid=Rachel+Reiland&ikwsec=Home&ikwidx=0
By Kiera Van Gelder.
I’ve heard so much about this book. It is so interesting, I could hardly put it down. I laughed and cried right along with Kiera through all of her trials and tribulations. I felt her aching to find herself through Buddhism, online dating and DBT (Dialectical Behaviour Therapy).
Kiera bravely takes us into her world, the Borderline world, a world that others can barely fathom. A world where emotions are so deeply felt, that you’d do anything to get rid of the negative ones, where you may even feel as though they could kill you themselves.
She also tells us how she came into recovery – through learning DBT skills and practicing Buddhism. I admire Kiera for advocating for those of us recovering from Borderline Personality Disorder. Thank you Kiera so much!
“Her” follows the life of Kristen, a 17-year-old young woman, admitted to Bent Creek Mental Hospital. She’s under tremendous pressure, and experiencing trauma and flashbacks through which her story is told. It shows the unhealthy coping skills she’s learned, and how she’s introduced to new ways of thinking. Very engaging! It pulls the reader in.
This book is a very intense read! “Her” really shows what it’s like – the irrational thoughts, intense emotions and behaviours of an adolescent with Borderline Personality Disorder . I could really feel everything along with Kristen. I could relate to a lot of the things in the book. I couldn’t put it down! An excellent look into the mind of a BPD sufferer.
Find out more about “Her” here: “Her” from Amazon.ca
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Women Who Think Too Much. Published by Smashwords.com. Only $1.99! A must-read.