Are Sibling Battles Hurting Your Kids’ Mental Health? | Addiction Recovery

I can relate to this:

Are Sibling Battles Hurting Your Kids’ Mental Health? | Addiction Recovery.

Self-Harm and Triggers: Family, Relationships and Bullying | Speaking Out About Self-Injury – HealthyPlace

Self-Harm and Triggers: Family, Relationships and Bullying | Speaking Out About Self-Injury – HealthyPlace.

Sibling bullying linked to later depression, self-harm

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/09/140919100258.htm

Effects of Bullying Can Be Persistent | Psych Central News

Effects of Bullying Can Be Persistent | Psych Central News.

Bullying at Work: Workplace Mobbing is on the Rise | World of Psychology

I disagree with the term “splitting” as it is used here, other than that, a great article:

Bullying at Work: Workplace Mobbing is on the Rise | World of Psychology.

Bullying Children with Mental Illness

Becky Oberg of “More Than Borderline” hosts this video on bullying children with mental illness.  Must watch:

Protecting Today’s Youth: Professional School Counselors Fight Cyberbullying | Richard Yep

Protecting Today’s Youth: Professional School Counselors Fight Cyberbullying | Richard Yep.

Please help a “Make BPD Stigma-Free” Facebook member!

She is being badly stigmatized and bullied regularly.  To read her plea, please click here:  https://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=732790893403267&id=627381243944233

Thank you all so much,

– Joyce.

Past the bullying ‘breaking point’ in Canada, Facebook pushes awareness for online tools – National | Globalnews.ca

Past the bullying ‘breaking point’ in Canada, Facebook pushes awareness for online tools – National | Globalnews.ca.

My Bullying Story

I was bullied all through school.  When I was in Grade 9, I spoke up about it and got beaten up.  I never did that ever again!  The principal called me and the girls who beat me up, along with our parents, into his office and made them apologize, then asked me if everything was ok now.  I said “Yes.”  What was I going to say?  “No, that’s not ok!?”  Why do people get bullied?  BECAUSE THEY HAVE LOW SELF-ESTEEM!  Another time, I was getting teased in class and ran to the bathroom, bawling my eyes out.  When I came back, they called me “crybaby!”  The teacher never even noticed or did anything.

Many of the kids that I went to school with lived in the same town as me, so every time I went downstreet, I’d see them, and hear them making fun of me.  I cried myself to sleep pretty much every single night.  It got so bad that, when I had graduated but was still living at home with Mom and Dad, I became agoraphobic for a few years, until I suffered a bit of a breakdown.

When I first went for counselling, I was so shy because of it, that I couldn’t even look at or speak to her.  I handed her a note then looked at the floor.  She’d ask me questions and I’d mumble and whisper.  She had to keep saying “Pardon?…Pardon?…Pardon?”

This is the effect that bullying had on me and my life.  The damage can last forever.  I still struggle with it to this day.

BULLYING IS UNACCEPTABLE!

“Grow A Thicker Skin” (Cyber-bullying, etc.)

I’ve read many stories lately about young people committing suicide.  I’m sure that many of them have undiagnosed BPD.  Some of the comments are just dreadful!  Obviously, they have no idea what these people were going through, or else they just don’t care.  They say things like they should just “grow a thicker skin.”  These comment are very insensitive and totally unhelpful.

Many of these kids were cyber-bullied.  Many commenters blamed the parents and said they should just take their computers and internet away.  I believe that they definitely need moderation, but blaming the parents isn’t the solution.  These kids are going to go online anyway.  They can go to a friend’s house.

I’ve even heard people blaming the victim!  Asking “Why didn’t she just get off that site?”  It’s not that easy.  Teens are very vulnerable.  Teen girls especially feel the need to fit in with their peers.  If everyone else is using this site and they’re not, they’ll feel so left out.  I’m not saying that’s not an option, I’m just trying to explain to people who don’t understand.

People don’t need to just “grow a thicker skin” anyways.  Without highly sensitive people, we would have no writers, no poets, no painters.  We sensitive people are very empathetic to the needs of others.  We are caring.  We are doctors, we are nurses, we are counsellors.  We like to make people laugh and bring a smile to their faces, so that they can forget about the pain that they might be going through, because we’ve been there ourselves.  Many of us are still going through it.  It is because we understand pain and suffering that we feel the need to comfort others and relieve their suffering.

What people suffering from mental illness need; whether from depression, cyber-bullying, etc.; is compassion, erased stigma and misconceptions, awareness.

Please help me MAKE BPD STIGMA-FREE!

 

Bullying: Suicides Put a Spotlight on a Schoolyard Problem – TIME

The school system released an internal report today that concluded Herrera had not been subjected to more teasing than his peers.

I doesn’t matter if someone is subjected to more teasing than others or not. Some people are more intensely emotional than others.

Bullying: Suicides Put a Spotlight on a Schoolyard Problem – TIME.

Childhood Bullying’s Lasting Impact on Employment | TIME.com

I found this part of the following article very interesting:

And that emotional damage can have painful consequences; some brain imaging studies have shown that the sense of rejection caused by bullying activate the same pathways in the brain linked to physical pain.

Childhood Bullying’s Lasting Impact on Employment | TIME.com.

Proposed cyberbullying law draws NDP support – Politics – CBC News

Proposed cyberbullying law draws NDP support – Politics – CBC News.

Bullied Children Explain Their Pain: Video

This video will bring tears to your eyes, but it must be seen!  If you were ever bullied, this video will touch you deeply.

To This Day by Shane Koyczan

https://makebpdstigmafree.wordpress.com/to-this-day-by-shane-koyczan/

Lords debates support for severely bullied students – News from Parliament – UK Parliament

Lords debates support for severely bullied students – News from Parliament – UK Parliament.

Suicide Risk, Protection for Kids Being Bullied | Psych Central News

Suicide Risk, Protection for Kids Being Bullied | Psych Central News.

 

I was bullied by other kids at school growing up.  It wasn’t physical or electronic.  (They didn’t have it back then.)  I was purely verbal and social.  I was called names, excluded.  It was bad enough to cause my BPD.

Bullying in the Family

See also:  http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/health/2013/06/17/bullying-among-siblings-not-as-harmless-as-we-think/

and http://health.usnews.com/health-news/news/articles/2013/06/17/sibling-bullying-can-lead-to-depression-anxiety-in-victims

and http://www.nbcnews.com/health/parents-dont-ignore-sibling-bullying-study-warns-6C10327300

Health & Family

Brothers and sisters fight, but when the bickering evolves into physical or emotional abuse, it’s bullying.

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Cyberbullying Puts Teens at Risk | Center for Advancing Health

Cyberbullying Puts Teens at Risk | Center for Advancing Health.

Untitled Poem 2

I wrote this poem recently when I was feeling very depressed and alone.  I felt so hopeless and misunderstood.  It seemed like no one cared how I felt.  I felt totally invalidated.  I’ve been feeling a lot better since then.  I hope this poem helps people without BPD realize how intense our emotions are.

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Every morning, I put on my armour,
To protect me from their poisoned tongues,
Each arrow pierces my soul,

With each one I die a little more each day,
How much dying can one take till they are truly dead?

I am not full of life,
I am not dead,
I am numb and feel nothing.
I am past feeling the pain,
Eventually you don’t feel anymore.

How does one feel so hollow, so empty?
A shell of a person?

How do you get past pain to nothingness?
How do you feel less than nothing?

What a curse it is,
To take on the world’s pain upon your shoulders,
Their anger, their fear,

To feel the darkness of a million souls,
All screaming in your head,
And filling your heart.

To feel it as your own.

And you can never stop the floodgate of emotions that wash over you,
Consuming you,
Draining you.

Dragon flames licking at your heels,
As you try to climb out of the hell that’s your life,
Only to be pulled back by your demons to be tortured anew,
When will it end?

– By Joyce Savage.

Borderline Walk Honoring Memory of Sasha Menu-Courey Raises Awareness

http://www.swimmingworldmagazine.com/lane9/news/World/34441.asp?q=%3Ci%3EBorderline-Walk%3C/i%3E-Honoring-Memory-of-Sasha-Menu-Courey-Raises-Awareness

Bullying and borderline personality disorder: a missing link

A new study shows that close attention should be paid to bullying in elementary school and the link to BPD.  It’s unknown whether the bullying caused BPD or BPD provoked the bullying.  Either way, something needs to be done!  Read about the study here:

http://www.preventionaction.org/research/bullying-and-borderline-personality-disorder-missing-link/5945

Fears of Abandonment

I’ve read tons of other people’s blogs about their BPD and how they push their friends away before they get a chance to abandon them.  I don’t even let people get close enough to become friends, I’m so terrified of getting hurt.  I have several acquaintances.

When I was in high school, I got teased by everyone, all the time.  There were a few people who I thought were my friends, but they were just making fun of me behind my back.  I swore I’d never let that happen again, and I haven’t.

Except for one time.

Zero Tolerance in Schools

I am 44 years old and was bullied all through school. I still suffer the consequences of it TO THIS DAY!

Check out this post:   To This Day by Shane Koyczan