Tag Archives: invalidation

11 Lasting Effects of Invalidating Parents | Dysfunction Interrupted


Source: 11 Lasting Effects of Invalidating Parents | Dysfunction Interrupted

Invalidation, how it affects our emotions and can lead to Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) « Amanda Green


Source: Invalidation, how it affects our emotions and can lead to Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) « Amanda Green

20 ways you can emotionally invalidate someone


http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/20-ways-emotionally-invalidate-someone/

What is Invalidation? | The Emotionally Sensitive Person


What is Invalidation? | The Emotionally Sensitive Person.

Invalidation, how it affects our emotions and can lead to Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) « Amanda Green


Invalidation, how it affects our emotions and can lead to Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) « Amanda Green.

Ethics & Mental Health Journalism: The Difficult Case of Borderline Personality Disorder


By Dominic Sisti, PhD

There is an excellent chart in this article:

http://www.mentalhealthjournalism.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/Carter-Center-BlogSisti.pdf

Fatigue and BPD – A Cartoon


What Fatigue and BPD Feels Like to Me:


What youre thinking Im thinking

What Im really thinking

Deception and the Borderline Personality: What Could have Been? New Comment


Excellent comment to a very stigmatizing article / blog post:

***POSSIBLE TRIGGER WARNING!*** for the article replied to.

http://organizationalchangesolutions.wordpress.com/2011/03/11/deception-and-the-borderline-personality-what-could-have-been/#comment-1479

Cookie Cutters


Some simple cutout cookie cutters

Some simple cutout cookie cutters (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

We are not all exact cut-outs of each other.  Everyone has their own unique individual personality.  My mother-in-law keeps remarking about how our daughter and our son is so different, even though they were brought up exactly the same.  But they are not the same people!  She thinks that my brain works the same as hers, that I should do things the same way that she does, in the same time that she does, when she does, how she does.  She thinks that what works for her when she’s kind of down or stressed out should work for me too.  Sometimes it does, but not always.  I took DBT several years ago and am more in touch with my emotions than I have ever been in my entire life.  I know if something’s going to work for me or not.  I appreciate her suggestions but if something was going to work for me, I’d be doing it.  Obviously it doesn’t work.

For those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder, we are very different from other people.  Our brains are wired totally differently.  It can even be observed in brain scans.  You can’t see it just by looking at us, therefore people have no idea how sensitive we are and don’t give us the compassion that we need.  Instead, we get stigmatized and invalidated.

Just remember that you are not a cookie cutter cut-out!  You are unique, you are beautiful, and you are you!  You are perfect just the way you are!

– Joyce.