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A Late March Update

My son just turned 15.  His grandmother came over and he opened some presents.  He got mostly what he wanted – some DVDs and some gift cards and candy.

My husband and I celebrated our 20th anniversary.  We had a very quiet day.  He got me a teddy bear and some chocolates.  For our 25th, we’ll have to try to get away somewhere for a few days.  We’ll have to start saving up for it starting now, as soon as I can actually save a few bucks.  Still working on paying off my credit cards.

This blog is now four years old.  I just got a notification from WordPress telling me the other day.  Wow!  Four years.  I can tell a difference in myself from when I first started blogging.  My relationship with my mother-in-law was not very good at the time.  She was living with us and she didn’t understand my Borderline Personality Disorder.  We had a few good talks and she understands me a lot better now.  We get along great.  She is just like a second mother to me.  She has since remarried and moved out but we keep in touch often by phone and sometimes with visits.

I am thinking of possibly starting my BPD Group up again in May.  I’ll have to think of some materials to prepare for it.  I have a few ideas already.  I’ll have to schedule it around my son’s tutoring, which is going well.  He’s come into the hallway when she goes to the front door to put her boots on and waves to her.  All she can see is his hands, then his foot.  Next time, he’ll have to show her both his hands and feet.  That’ll be something to see!

My sister came over on Monday for our monthly sisters day together.  We had fun playing cards and goofing off on the computer.  My grandson turned one year old on Monday.  I haven’t heard from my daughter for a week.  I hope her and my grandson are doing okay.  My grandson is getting adopted.  It’s probably the best thing.  My daughter and her boyfriend are not ready to be parents right now.  They’re couch surfing and have no money.  I wish things would get better for them.  But they have to reach out for help.  There is help out there if you are willing to take it.  I keep telling my daughter to talk to a counsellor because they can hook you up with different agencies to help you but she just won’t for some reason.  She’d rather just ask my husband and I for money, which we don’t have.

Sorry for complaining but I just needed to let that all out.  I thought I would update you on how my life is going right now.  I’ll have some more news coming soon.  Till then,

— Joyce.

July Update

My daughter and her boyfriend were supposed to have a visit with their baby last Thursday at 2:30.  I haven’t heard anything since they don’t have a phone.  I hope they had their visit and that it went well.  My husband and I are very anxious to see him.  My husband hasn’t even seen him yet.  Neither has our son, or my mother-in-law.

In other news, a young lady that works at one of the out-of-town centres that I gave my email to has been approved to provide me with transportation to a couple of out-of-town centres to do my groups.  Yay!  I’m so nervous but excited!  I’m reaching more people.  Spreading the word about Borderline Personality Disorder and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy.  Fighting stigma!

I have just started a little newsletter telling everyone at the Centres all about my groups.  I hope that reading it will entice them to check them out.  It’s got a little about me, my groups, BPD and DBT.  It also tells a little bit about what we’re working on in Group and what topics are coming up.

I hope everyone is having a good summer.  Mine isn’t too bad at the moment.  I just miss my grandson!  Till next time,

— Joyce.

June Update

Wednesday was my dad’s birthday.  He’s 73 now.  I went out to dinner with my parents and sister for his birthday.  We had a great time.  Sunday I’m going to a Strawberry Social with them.  Yum!

I have my desktop computer back!  Yay!

I received a call from the CAS worker who arranges the visitation on Monday.  He said that my daughter and her boyfriend will probably get to see the baby next week, and after that, my husband and I can get to see him, hopefully.  I have my fingers crossed.

I’ve done a few Groups at an out-of-town Centre.  I gave someone there my email and we have been corresponding back and forth.  She may be able to take me to the other centre that has expressed an interest in me running a group there.  I have to make sure that it’s approved by the supervisor of all the Centres, and find a date that works for everyone.  I’m so excited if this works out!  I know that there’s at least one person there who will want to join my group.

Thanks for following me in my continuing journey of recovery.  Till next time,

— Joyce.

I Want My Grandson!

My computer has been screwing up on me and not working for the last week-and-a-half, so I’m writing this on my laptop.  I prefer my desktop computer for some things, especially blogging.  I’ll have to get it in the shop ASAP.

Our grandson is in foster care.  Our daughter doesn’t even know yet.  I think that she thinks he’s in a different area of the hospital than the NICU but that she’s not allowed to see him right now.  My husband and I just had a meeting with a worker from Children’s Aid Society (I think it’s called Child Protective Services in the States) to determine if we can look after our grandson while they check out if our daughter and her boyfriend are fit parents.

It did not go well.  We have a history with them from when our kids were little and they’re using it against us.  They said they just closed their file with us last year but we remember them closing it a few years ago.  This lady is going to talk to our family doctor and my psychiatrist.  Our only hope is that we get glowing reports from both of them.  Otherwise, we have no chance.  She kept telling us that she didn’t want us to get the wrong idea by her being here, that us getting our grandson was a done deal.

I’m gonna see if my Community Peer Support worker can talk to them.  Maybe that’ll help.  I really hope so!

Wish us luck.  We need all that we can get to keep our grandson in the family and not in foster care.

An Unwelcome Surprise Re: Our Grandson

Yesterday my son got a halter monitor.  This morning, since he’d worn it for 24 hours, he got it taken off.  They’re gonna send the results to our family doctor.  I’m sure they won’t find anything.  He didn’t have any chest pains while he was wearing it.

I just found out this morning that our grandson was taken into foster care.  They didn’t even tell my husband and I.  He wasn’t even supposed to get out of the hospital until Saturday, but they didn’t have room for him in the hospital.  They should have told us.  We’ve been getting our house cleaned and organized in case the baby came to live with us for now.

Our daughter’s boyfriend is going to take Anger Management.  He does have a bit of a temper.

I’ll let you know more as I find out more.  Thanks for listening.  Till next time,

— Joyce.

Pictures for my Parents, A Project and Postings

The Thursday before last, when my Community Peer Support worker took my daughter and I to see my grandson, we got some pictures of me holding the baby.  This past weekend, I visited my parents and sister and shared the pictures with them.  They loved them (of course!)

I showed my sister the plastic canvas project I’m working on for my Craft Group.  It’s a magazine holder I’m gonna give to my daughter for her baby books.  I tried to show my sister how to do it the way I was taught.  She picked it up pretty well.

I got behind in checking my emails this weekend.  I’m just getting caught up now.  I didn’t post a lot on here while I was getting used to the laptop, but now I’m posting more.

I hope everyone is having a good day/night wherever you are.  Till next time,

— Joyce.

April Update

I had my last out-of-town BPD Group yesterday.  Nobody showed up for it.  So I had a group with just the lady who runs the centre and my Peer Support worker.  I was very disappointed.  I had wanted to say goodbye to everyone in the group.

After Group, my worker took me to another one of their centres.  I’m gonna be doing a presentation on BPD there on the 28th of this month.  I hope it goes well!

I really need to get to the hospital and see my new grandson again ASAP!  My mother-in-law has been taking our daughter and her boyfriend every day.  They never ask me if I want to come.  Maybe she thinks I’m busy.  It would still be nice to be asked.  I’m gonna hint that I’d like to see the baby too and see what happens.  I hope she takes the hint.

I couldn’t sleep a wink last night.  I don’t know why.  I’ve had so much trouble sleeping for weeks now.  Either I can’t sleep until 3 am or else I wake up at 3 am and then I can’t go back to sleep.  The other day, I was awake from 3 am for 24 hours and then I got an hour or two of sleep, then was awake for the day again.  That sucked!

That’s it for now.  Till next time,

— Joyce.

A Very Eventful Easter!

My daughter and her boyfriend recently got kicked out of where they were staying.  They’ve been staying with his mom for a couple of weeks.  They’re getting an apartment out of town on April 1st.  Now for the big news:  I’m a grandma!  My daughter had her baby yesterday, on Easter Sunday.  It’s a little boy.  He only weighed 3 lbs. and 8 oz.  He’s a couple months premature so he’ll have to stay in the hospital for another 8 weeks.  But mother and baby are both doing fine.  I can’t believe I’m a grandma!  I wasn’t expecting this so soon!  But I’m so excited.  The baby’s middle name is my late brother’s name.  My daughter wanted to honour him.  How sweet!

Just had to let you know my great news.  Thanks for reading.  Till next time,

— Joyce.