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Risk Factors and Warning Signs — AFSP

Source: Risk Factors and Warning Signs — AFSP

Suicide Prevention Graphic

This is National Suicide Prevention Week in the United States.  10% of people with Borderline Personality Disorder take their own lives.  My own life has been touched by suicide.  I am sharing this graphic from the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention:

Suicide Warning Signs

Suicide app has saved scores of lives (From The Argus)

AN INNOVATIVE app set up to provide support for those considering suicide has saved the lives of scores of people.

Source: Suicide app has saved scores of lives (From The Argus)

unsuicide – Online Suicide Help

Source: unsuicide – Online Suicide Help

“Emotional Rescue” My Thoughts

Last night, I watched “Emotional Rescue” from W5 online.  It was about adolescents with Borderline Personality Disorder.  It was very informative.  I already knew some of what they showed, but some of the stories were new to me.

Most doctors and therapists don’t like to diagnose Borderline Personality Disorder in people under 18 because they believe that their personality is still forming.  That can be a death sentence to adolescents with BPD.  We need to make sure that these teens don’t fall through the cracks.

In the U.S., they have programs for teens with BPD.  Comprehensive, residential programs.  They need programs like that here in Canada.  There is currently a petition going around to try and get support for those types of programs here.  Here is the link:


Please think about supporting this petition.  Don’t let any more teens become statistics.  I’m sure that many of you could have used programs like these when you were younger.  I know I could have.

Did you watch the program?  What did you think of it?  Could you see yourself in the adolescents featured?  If you do watch this program, make sure that you are taking care of yourself and are not triggered.  If you do start to feel triggered, stop watching it and do some self-soothing or distracting.  Whatever works for you.  I hope that this gives non-BPDs some insight into what people with Borderline Personality Disorder go through every day.  I am so glad that I had some Dialectical Behaviour Therapy and can manage my emotions so much better than I did years ago.  I’m not perfect by any means but I’m a lot better than I used to be.  I wish that for everyone suffering from this disorder, which can be totally debilitating but also overcome with therapy like DBT.

Dr. Blaise Aguirre, featured on the show, has written a book called “Borderline Personality Disorder in Adolescents: A Complete Guide to Understanding and Coping When Your Adolescent has BPD” as well as “Mindfulness for Borderline Personality Disorder: Relieve Your Suffering Using the Core Skill of Dialectical Behavior Therapy  Both are excellent books.  I highly recommend them.

Also check out Sashbear.org.  Sasha was one of the adolescents featured on the program.  Every year, there is a walk held in her memory.  What a wonderful tribute to her.  Please check out her story!

Thanks again for joining me in my continuing journey of wellness.  Till next time,

— Joyce.

Missed diagnosis and no treatment: BPD’s risk to adolescents

Neurological imaging studies suggest that people with BPD have an overactive amygdala, the part of the brain where emotions are processed, and an underactive pre-frontal cortex, that regulates those emotions. And among adolescents, it can be dismissed as a phase of normal adolescent development, and misdiagnosis poses an additional risk to these young people.

Source: Missed diagnosis and no treatment: BPD’s risk to adolescents

W5 Delivers Exclusive Interview with Prime Minister-Designate Justin Trudeau, October 24 on CTV — TORONTO, Oct. 23, 2015

TORONTO, Oct. 23, 2015- W5 Delivers Exclusive Interview with Prime Minister-Designate Justin Trudeau, October 24 on CTV.

Source: W5 Delivers Exclusive Interview with Prime Minister-Designate Justin Trudeau, October 24 on CTV — TORONTO, Oct. 23, 2015


The second story of the evening is about adolescent BPD.

Quote About Suicide Stigma

Just read this through a post on Facebook, and it really spoke to me:

Dealing with stigma

Many people have trouble discussing suicide, and might not reach out to you. This could leave you feeling isolated or abandoned if the support you expected to receive just isn’t there.
That’s exactly how I feel – abandoned.  The worst feeling for someone with, or in recovery from, Borderline Personality Disorder.  Our number one fear!  I’m still trying to work things out in my head regarding my brother’s death, and how my family is dealing with it.  And how I can cope with it.
Just wanting to let that out.  Hopefully, as I work on it more and more, I’ll gradually be able to deal with it better.  Still feeling numb, in shock, guilty, angry but not hysterical.  I guess that’s a good thing.
Thanks for listening.  Till next time,
— Joyce.
P.S.  The Facebook Page is got this quote from is called “In Loving Memory of My Son Jason Scott Hearn”  Check it out!

Today is World Suicide Prevention Day!

Today is World Suicide Prevention Day.  As you may know, 10% of people with people with Borderline Personality Disorder commit suicide.  As you may also know, my brother committed suicide earlier this year.  Maybe you have attempted it or know someone who has attempted or succeeded in taking their own lives.

Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) can help those of us with BPD so that we don’t have to feel like taking our own lives.  We need to make it more accessible and affordable to people who need it.  Check out DBT Path, run by Debbie Corso, here:


Please do what you can for this cause – share posts, talk about it, whatever you can do.  I will be sharing posts on my Facebook Page and on here so please check them out.

Thank you,

Joyce Savage.

Mixed Emotions Re: My Family’s Reactions to My Brother’s Suicide and My Tribute to Him


My family doesn’t want to talk about my brother’s death being a suicide.  I’d like to talk about it, busting stigma, and therefore, feeling like I’m doing something good that will come out of it, thereby easing my guilt and sadness.  Since they don’t want to talk about it, I can’t do what I feel I need to do to grieve properly and feel better, which makes me angry.  Then I feel guilty for being angry with my family.  I shouldn’t feel angry with them.  All of this keeps going around and around in my head.  I just want to be able to not let his death be in vain.  Also, I want to feel less guilty that I wasn’t there for him before he committed suicide.  I’ve been told that I shouldn’t feel guilty but I can’t help it.  If I could do something to make up for it, to be an advocate on his behalf since he can’t, I’d feel better.  I’m trying to keep a tribute to him going, but my family is against almost everything to do with it.  They just want to not talk about it at all.  I know I’m really rambling here but I just needed to try to explain how I’m feeling.  I’m gonna talk to my counsellor next week about this.

Thanks again for listening,

— Joyce.


Tips for a Suicide Safety Plan:

Source: Safety

My Brother – Update


I went to the Peer Support Centre this morning.  I told them what happened to my brother.  I got a few hugs from my friends there.  I picked up my meds and took them just now when I got home.  I just called my mom and asked if there was any new news to tell me.  She said not right now.  That they were waiting for some phone calls.  They’re going to just have a very small ceremony for my brother.  It feels like a dream, like it can’t really be true.  But I know that it is.

Thanks for listening again.  I appreciate all your support so much.

– Joyce.

My Brother’s Gone


My mother called me with some bad news this morning.  My brother hung himself last night.  My dad and my sister found him.  They’re all understandably shaken up.  I had a bit of a complicated relationship with him.  He was a bit of a narcissist.  He was verbally abusive at times, and physically abusive when we were growing up.  He still didn’t deserve to die.  He was having a hard time with life.  He was doing a little better lately though.  He had a worker who had just gotten him a place to live.  He’d had a place to stay for months now.  Instead of crashing at my parents’ house like he had been for the last few years.  He could have gotten a job.  He always thought that he knew everything though.  No one could tell him any different.  I wish he’d gotten some psychiatric help.  Talked to a counsellor like I do every other week.

I’m still in shock.  I’m kind of numb to it all.  I’m upset but I’m not crying at the moment.  My meds numb me out too, so that doesn’t help.  I’m almost out of my meds.  I don’t have any for morning.  I’ll have to get them tomorrow for sure.  We’re gonna have to notify everyone and let them know what happened.  I have to get in touch with my counsellor and let her know.  I haven’t seen her for a month maybe.  She never showed up for our last appointment.  I think she left me a voicemail on my cellphone but it’s not working at the moment.  I really need a new one.

It’ll probably hit me later, what happened with my brother.  I used to go out for lunch with him sometimes.  We won’t be doing that anymore.  Thanks for listening to me ramble on again.  It’s so appreciated.

– Joyce

What a Week! (RIP Robin Williams)

It’s been a horrible few days.  First, my shoes started falling apart right on my feet at the Peer Support Centre.  Then, it was the second anniversary of The Fire.  Luckily, I didn’t experience any flashbacks or anything.  I just miss my old house so much.  I feel like crying about it every day.

Then, our daughter didn’t come home or call.  Yesterday, we were so worried.  She texted us at 2:00 am.  We didn’t receive it until the next day.  We called the cops to come and help us find her.  He drove around and found her.  She called us last night to let us know that she was staying over at a friend’s house for the night again and that she didn’t want us to worry.  Our power went out early this morning for a few hours.  We had to reset all the clocks on everything electronic in the house.

Then, yesterday evening, I found my Facebook feed flooded with the news of Robin Williams’ passing due to suicide.  What week!  I feel so badly for his friends and family.  He was such a great actor and comedian and human being.  He will be greatly missed.  If anyone needs to vent, or express their condolences, please feel free to do so here.

If you are in crisis, please contact the crisis number where you are, or go to the nearest Emergency Department.  We do not need to lose anyone else!  There is help out there.

Hoping this week gets better somehow,

– Joyce.

Suicide & A Safety Plan

‘Manipulative’????? And how she is dead… Suicide trigger warning | Beauty From Pain Blog

‘Manipulative’????? And how she is dead… Suicide trigger warning | Beauty From Pain Blog.

Did You Know…#1

Did You Know - pause

that 10% of people with Borderline Personality Disorder commit suicide?

“Grow A Thicker Skin” (Cyber-bullying, etc.)

I’ve read many stories lately about young people committing suicide.  I’m sure that many of them have undiagnosed BPD.  Some of the comments are just dreadful!  Obviously, they have no idea what these people were going through, or else they just don’t care.  They say things like they should just “grow a thicker skin.”  These comment are very insensitive and totally unhelpful.

Many of these kids were cyber-bullied.  Many commenters blamed the parents and said they should just take their computers and internet away.  I believe that they definitely need moderation, but blaming the parents isn’t the solution.  These kids are going to go online anyway.  They can go to a friend’s house.

I’ve even heard people blaming the victim!  Asking “Why didn’t she just get off that site?”  It’s not that easy.  Teens are very vulnerable.  Teen girls especially feel the need to fit in with their peers.  If everyone else is using this site and they’re not, they’ll feel so left out.  I’m not saying that’s not an option, I’m just trying to explain to people who don’t understand.

People don’t need to just “grow a thicker skin” anyways.  Without highly sensitive people, we would have no writers, no poets, no painters.  We sensitive people are very empathetic to the needs of others.  We are caring.  We are doctors, we are nurses, we are counsellors.  We like to make people laugh and bring a smile to their faces, so that they can forget about the pain that they might be going through, because we’ve been there ourselves.  Many of us are still going through it.  It is because we understand pain and suffering that we feel the need to comfort others and relieve their suffering.

What people suffering from mental illness need; whether from depression, cyber-bullying, etc.; is compassion, erased stigma and misconceptions, awareness.

Please help me MAKE BPD STIGMA-FREE!


The Shocking Truth of Suicide? | Guideposts to Happiness

The Shocking Truth of Suicide? | Guideposts to Happiness.

Bullying: Suicides Put a Spotlight on a Schoolyard Problem – TIME

The school system released an internal report today that concluded Herrera had not been subjected to more teasing than his peers.

I doesn’t matter if someone is subjected to more teasing than others or not. Some people are more intensely emotional than others.

Bullying: Suicides Put a Spotlight on a Schoolyard Problem – TIME.

Taking pills for unhappiness reinforces the idea that being sad is not human | Giles Fraser | Comment is free | The Guardian

Taking pills for unhappiness reinforces the idea that being sad is not human | Giles Fraser | Comment is free | The Guardian.

There’s No Time for Whispering. Shout About Mental Health – Your Valley Voice: Education

There’s No Time for Whispering. Shout About Mental Health – Your Valley Voice: Education.

Suicide is a gender issue that can no longer be ignored | Jane Powell | Comment is free | theguardian.com

Suicide is a gender issue that can no longer be ignored | Jane Powell | Comment is free | theguardian.com.

Proposed cyberbullying law draws NDP support – Politics – CBC News

Proposed cyberbullying law draws NDP support – Politics – CBC News.

Borderline Personality Disorder Treatment: Suicidal Behaviors

Borderline Personality Disorder Treatment: Suicidal Behaviors.