Hosted by Gillian C. Galen, PsyD, Program Director, 3East Intensive and Step-Down Residential Programs Dr. Galen will review the critically important skill of validation. She will discuss the ways in which you can either begin or continue to practice the skill of validation with those in your life particularly those diagnosed with borderline personality disorder.
Source: “Validation: Making Sense of the Emotional Turmoil in Borderline Personality Disorder” | McLean Hospital
“I put in a request for my annual review three weeks ago,” a friend told me. “I’ve reminded my supervisor about it, but she still hasn’t scheduled it.” It’s bad enough to worry about whether or not you’ll get a raise or a promotion, but now my friend is left feeling like she doesn’t even matter. Work for her has meant lots of unexpected travel and many weekends on the job. None of these were part of her job description, and yet… Now those late nights at the office and weekends spent traveling to meet with clients is going to be more difficult than it was in the past. All that time spent away from friends and family — now she feels her sacrifice means very little to her higher-ups. With job insecurity as high as it is, you’d think we’d start teaching millennials self-validation in school. Why self-validation? Because there’s no guarantee you’ll find it anywhere else. Many people work hard but that isn’t always reflected in how they are regarded or paid. Underemployment was at nearly 14
Source: 4 Ways to Validate Yourself | World of Psychology
If I had my wish as a therapist and person who has struggled with Borderline Personality Disorder, Persistent Depressive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and Panic Disorder, it would be that everyone in the world would develop a better understanding of validation. I wish to make such “a big deal” on this matter because of the way …
Source: The Importance of Validation in Borderline Personality Disorder – BREAKAWAY MHE
If you’re looking to increase your capacity for self-soothing to depend less on validation from others, you may find these ideas helpful.
Source: 5 Ways to Validate Yourself: Be Part of Your Support System
When you’re depressed, do you want people to say things to try cheering you up? Or does that make you feel invalidated? Sometimes it can feel like they don’t understand the depth of what you’re going through. Like, if they knew how bad you felt they’d know you needed validation and not just cheering up. I need to feel validated when I’m really down.
Does it work for you when they try cheering you up? Does it work sometimes but not others? What works for you? Please let us know in the comments below:
Today in Group, we discussed the importance of Validation to those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder. If you are a highly sensitive person and grow up in an invalidating environment, you are at risk for developing BPD. Here are my posts about Validation:
Open letter to BPD itself from a Non-BPD, in support of a loved one:
I Hate Borderline Personality Disorder! – You, Me, and BPD.