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Stop Caring!: Battling Judgement

Originally posted on Pride in Madness:

We all make judgments. If you believe that you do not make judgements then you are lying to yourself. That is a fact, not a judgement because judgements are our first reaction to something and we have little to no control over our first reactions.  The important part with judgements is to not let them influence us and destroy the lives our lives and the lives of others.

Image: a hand pointing with the index finger.

Since I started learning DBT skills with DBT Path and now with Dialectical Living I have been working on reducing my judgements. Non-Judgmentally is a mindfulness skill and part of our suffering can definitley come from being judgmental towards others, ourselves and situations. I became aware of my judgments very quickly earlier this year when it was suggested in my Skills Group with DBT Path that we count how many judgments we make a…

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The Still Face Experiment.

Originally posted on Lucky Otter's Haven:

Here is a dramatic video that shows how powerful the lack of mirroring is on an infant. It’s amazing how quickly the baby in this video notices the mother’s lack of affect and responds negatively to it. This is at the root of attachment disorders in children and most personality disorders, especially Cluster B. Without appropriate mirroring a child can’t develop empathy because it has never been modeled for them.

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I’m no longer Borderline

Originally posted on My Way Out of Borderline Personality Disorder:

“You’re not Borderline anymore.”

Those were the words uttered by my therapist 30 minutes into this afternoon’s therapy session. He went on to say that he knew from the first session that I didn’t quite fit the criteria for BPD.

“I knew you could benefit from DBT though because you did have suicidal and self-harming thoughts. And, you were also emotionally dysregulated when you first got here,” he added. “But, Borderline? No, you’re not — at least not anymore.”

A Happy Non-Ending

It’s been quite a journey up to this point — one of course that hasn’t ended — despite what my therapist said today I still have 3.5 months to go before I graduate from the DBT program.

I do have to say that over the past two weeks I’ve made one of the biggest efforts in my life to improve my mental, emotional, and spiritual state. Once I…

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Building A Sense of Mastery

I used to have such a hard time taking care of myself.  I was always so fatigued for years now.  I could barely drag myself into the shower.  Lots of times I just couldn’t.  Then I’d feel gross and disgusting but I just couldn’t help it.  I know that people would probably just say that I “just have to try harder”  I have been doing a lot better lately.  I am showering pretty much every day now.  It’s such a little thing but hugely important and such a big accomplishment for me.  I don’t wash my hair every day like I should since it’s so oily but that’s next on my agenda.  I’m going to add one thing at a time, and build mastery over one thing for a little while before trying to add another and getting myself frustrated and stressed out then just feeling bad about myself again.

I feel pretty good about myself for showering every day.  I’ll feel even better when I can wash my hair more often but it’ll happen soon enough.  Do you have trouble with things like this?  Is there some small thing that you can do to build mastery over something?  Do you eat right?  Have you had anything to eat today?  Was it healthy?  If so, great!  If not, try to take care of yourself in some small way.  You deserve it!

Till next time,

— Joyce.

If they are not here then they are gone

Originally posted on Pride in Madness:

Image: a baby making a confused face. The text reads, “You mean to tell me you don’t go anywhere when we play peekaboo?”

Babies learn something called object permanence. Object permanence is knowing that something or someone still exists even if you cannot see it (hear it, smell it, touch it etc.). Peek-a-boo is one of the best games to play with babies to teach them object permanence. When it comes to people, especially primary care providers for babies, it is important for them to know that just because someone leaves it does not mean they are gone. This is part of the reason why babies cry when a person leaves. This understanding builds healthy attachments. It is important for a baby to learn that when the one they love leaves they will come back.

Object permanence got me thinking about where some of my attachment issues some from although…

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Sometimes Distortions

Originally posted on simplyeye:

 Having a mental illness can really make you feel strange and when you share it with others who want to get close it makes you wonder.  Will they run or will they stay?

Sometimes the world frightens me because I shelter myself where it feels safe.    It can be cruel out there.

Sometimes the distorted thinking is at bay and I can upset others and then I think I deserve to be alone forever.


  • All or Nothing Thinking

  • Jumping into conclusions

  • Assumptions

  • Mind Reading

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DBT Skills Group – Interpersonal Effectiveness Week 3

Originally posted on Living with Borderline Personality Disorder:

This week in the DBT Skills Group I attend, we continued working through the Interpersonal Effectiveness module. We looked primarily at the GIVE skill which I will outline below.

GIVE is used when the priority within an interpersonal interaction is on Relationship Effectiveness i.e. maintaining the relationship.

The GIVE Skill is usually used in conjunction with the DEARMANskill when trying to be effective both in one’s Objectives Effectiveness and Relationship Effectivess simultaneously. Here the combined skills may be referred to as DEARMAN-GIVE. In my opinion GIVE can be used on its own as well within any interpersonal interaction in which the relationship is important to you.

The acronym GIVE stands for:

  • (be) Gentle – quite simply, this reminds us to be gentle, kind and respectful in how we approach the other person. It consists of 3 main aspects:
    No attacks: try to stay away from blaming…

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Mental disorder identity comic

Originally posted on Pride in Madness:

Check out this great comic from Everyday Feminism by ChristineDeneweth about identifying as your disorder! Many of us use person first language which would have us saying, “I am a person with Borderline Personality Disorder.” That is 100% ok! Others, like myself, do identify with our disorder and will say, “I am Borderline.” This is also 100% ok! How you identify is your business and no one can tell you that you are wrong!

Here is the link to the comic:

The comic link also includes a transcript.

language 3 Image from Everyday Feminist comic: First Panel reads, ‘Hold up! Pause!” Second Panel, “I just told Mike that I was schizophrenic. That was my truth! While there’s nothing wrong with identifying as a person with schizophrenia, that’s not my word choice.” Third Panel, “When you correct a person with a mental disorder you take away their identity and silence them. You…

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