How to Face Reality and Make Peace with Yourself


At a certain point, it hits you: You’re probably never going to be a movie star or a dot.com gazillionaire.

Source: How to Face Reality and Make Peace with Yourself

What having borderline personality disorder really means | Time To Change


Source: What having borderline personality disorder really means | Time To Change

Sashbear.org


Sashbear.org making waves on BPD

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Healing From BPD – Borderline Personality Disorder Blog: Facts, Assumptions, and Missing Pieces in Seth Meyers, Psy.D.’s “Price of Loving Someone…Borderline…”


Source: Healing From BPD – Borderline Personality Disorder Blog: Facts, Assumptions, and Missing Pieces in Seth Meyers, Psy.D.’s “Price of Loving Someone…Borderline…”

Dissociation and Grounding


Living with Borderline Personality Disorder

Last week I was really struggling with dissociation so I compiled this list of grounding techniques personalised to me but effective for many.

When dissociated it can be challenging to think clearly and access skills so hopefully having this written list will be helpful to refer back to in the future:

  • 5 things you see, 4 things you hear, 3 things you touch, 2 things you smell, 1 thing you taste
  • Get up and touch everything red…. then blue….. then green, etc whilst saying the name of the object
  • Balance on the wobble board
  • Ice diving / ice / water on face
  • Drink ice cold water
  • Go outside in the cold with minimal layers (appropriately!) and shock the system
  • Go on the trampoline
  • Untie a tightly knotted piece of string
  • Spend time with my little sisters playing puzzles or board games – use participate skill
  • Smell tiger balm or other…

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My life with borderline personality disorder- ‘I’ve always felt like an outsider, an imposter, someone who was tolerated’ – Independent.ie


In April 2014, after a long, long period of recurrent depression, hospitalisation and medication trial and error, I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD). I remember

Source: My life with borderline personality disorder- ‘I’ve always felt like an outsider, an imposter, someone who was tolerated’ – Independent.ie

The Most Important Thing That Gets Left Out in Self-Care Advice for Mothers – Left Brain Buddha


Related

Source: The Most Important Thing That Gets Left Out in Self-Care Advice for Mothers – Left Brain Buddha

Why DBT and mindfulness is helping me get more out of therapy.


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For anyone suffering from BPD who wants to undergo psychodynamic or trauma therapy, I definitely recommend taking some DBT (or CBT) classes first. This also applies to people with complex PTSD, as the symptoms of C-PTSD and BPD can be almost the same (and for Borderlines, usually co-exist together).

I’ve been in therapy many times throughout my life, but I never stuck with it before. I usually would quit, because I either gave up in frustration or things got too intense. My first instinct whenever things in life would get too uncomfortable was to run. I had zero insight into myself or why I reacted (or overreacted) to things the way I did. I always thought everything was someone else’s fault. Yet I was constantly apologizing for things that weren’t my fault. I know that’s confusing, but I was confused. I was ignorant about boundaries and then wondered why others…

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Guest Post #1: When My World Shattered


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I’m thrilled to introduce my first guest blogger, Tessa from Advocate for Mental Illness.   Her blog is about her daily struggles with Bipolar disorder, told from a Christian perspective.  She has recently given her life to Jesus Christ.  Here is her bio from her About page:

ABOUT TESSA

Teresa (Tessa) Smeigh is over 55 and still going strong despite her disabilities affecting both physical and mental abilities. She has bipolar disorder (mental), Fibromyalgia (nerves), degenerative disc disease (spine), and arthritis (joints). Despite that she is active in Mental Health Advocating, writing for http://www.IBPF.org (volunteer for non-profit) and has 5 blog posts already published by them. She is also working on 2 fiction books (mysteries). She keeps her blog filled with useful content, daily devotionals (She is a Christian), stories and poems. Plenty to keep you busy. She has also been interviewed by blogs and had…

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We’re Having A Grandson!


Our daughter had an ultrasound yesterday and found out that she’s having a boy.  So we’re gonna have a grandson.  And our son is gonna be an uncle.  He’s always wanted a little brother.  I told him that having a nephew will be almost like having a little brother – It will be someone to look up to him and play with.  I think he’s kind of excited.  I hope this helps him get along with his sister better.  Whenever she comes over he goes to his room and ignores her.

Just wanted to tell you all my news.  Till next time,

— Joyce.

Borderline Congress 2016


Source: Borderline Congress 2016

When I Realized I Was Thankful for My Borderline Personality Diagnosis | The Mighty


At first, her heart sank.

Source: When I Realized I Was Thankful for My Borderline Personality Diagnosis | The Mighty

The Victory Of Being Lost In Thought – Mindful


ABC News Anchor Dan Harris and meditation teacher Joseph Goldstein explore how to re-frame that moment when you catch your mind wandering and why that moment is the most important part of mindfulness practice.

Source: The Victory Of Being Lost In Thought – Mindful

New York Jets wide receiver Brandon Marshall and Michi Marshall to receive award at the Linehan Institute Benefit.


NEW YORK, NY (PRWEB) February 03, 2016 The Linehan Institute is pleased to announce that Project 375 co-founders Brandon and Michi Marshall will be honored at the Linehan Institute Benefit at the

Source: New York Jets wide receiver Brandon Marshall and Michi Marshall to receive award at the Linehan Institute Benefit.

HealingFromBPD – Borderline Personality Disorder Blog: The Sadness Spiral (BPD and Afraid to Feel)


Source: HealingFromBPD – Borderline Personality Disorder Blog: The Sadness Spiral (BPD and Afraid to Feel)

Community Peer Support Appointment Soon!


In my area, we have Community Peer Support (CPS) workers.  You get one-on-one peer support about every other week.  They also work in the Peer Support Centres.  I’m being matched up with someone for Community Peer Support and I’m so excited!  I was so nervous about therapy ending eventually, but now I’m not so nervous, knowing that I’m gonna have appointments for Peer Support.

The lady I’m gonna be matched up with, I already know.  She runs a group which I attend regularly.  So that really helps.  We had a bit of time together one day as she was dropping me off from a group and we really enjoyed it.  We got along great!  I’m really looking forward to having this one-on-one Peer Support!

I’ll let you all know how my first appointment goes.  Till then,

— Joyce.

HealingFromBPD.org – Borderline Personality Disorder Blog: Home


Please check out Debbie’s revamped blog at the link below.  Don’t forget to check her out on Facebook and her other links as well!

Source: HealingFromBPD.org – Borderline Personality Disorder Blog: Home

BPD Awareness: end the stigma


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Borderline Personality Disorder is a serious mental disorder with its roots in childhood abuse (usually narcissistic or sexual abuse) and as you can see in one of the memes below, it shares much in common with Complex PTSD and may in fact be a variation of the same disorder.

But BPD is terribly stigmatized, with its sufferers being called everything from evil to incurable.  Many mental health professionals refuse to work with Borderlines because of this stigma.  They’re afraid of us!  While some more aggressive borderlines can certainly do bad things to others and be manipulative, for people with BPD, their actions are caused by an inability to control or regulate their emotions, so they act out instead of thinking before they act. Many Borderlines are more destructive to themselves than to others.  They can seem self-centered and narcissistic not because they lack empathy (many borderlines, in fact have an…

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20 Secrets of People Who Live With Borderline Personality Disorder | The Mighty


“My personality disorder doesn’t define who I am, it explains it.”

Source: 20 Secrets of People Who Live With Borderline Personality Disorder | The Mighty

Borderline Personality Disorder Patient and Family Education Initiative | Patient and Family Resources | McLean Hospital


Source: Borderline Personality Disorder Patient and Family Education Initiative | Patient and Family Resources | McLean Hospital

100 Things I Learned In Recovery


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Here are 100 things I learned in recovery 

  1. My passion for Mental Health
  2. Mental illness doesn’t define us
  3. Self-Reliance
  4. It’s okay to not be okay
  5. There are no good or bad emotions, but there are good and bad ways of expressing emotions.
  6. Resiliency
  7. Self-Compassion is a priority
  8. Self-Awareness is key
  9. Coping skills that best work for me
  10. We don’t owe anyone an explanation for self-care.
  11. Beauty lives in our differences
  12. Dialectical Behavior Therapy
  13. Mindfulness
  14. The more I loved myself – the more I fell in love with my kids
  15. Not to feel guilty for self-care
  16. Patience and understanding for othersLove Yourself
  17. Recovery comes first
  18. How to stand up for myself and fight against stigma
  19. Things will always work out – do not give up
  20. We are not broken, weak or worthless
  21. It’s never too late to become the person you want to be
  22. The present moment is all you ever have

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National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder Presents: Family Connections | Atlanta


National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder Presents: Family Connections, Skyland Trail, 1961 N Druid Hills Rd NE, Atlanta, United States. Sat Jan 30 2016 at 09:30 am, The Family Connections program is designed to provide parents, spouses, adult children, and siblings with the kn

Source: National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder Presents: Family Connections | Atlanta

I’m only 6 years old. – Down the Rabbit Hole


Source: I’m only 6 years old. – Down the Rabbit Hole

January Update


I saw my psychiatrist today.  She’s keeping my meds the same.  No increase or decrease or different meds.  I’m seeing her again in May, after my daughter’s baby is due.

I have some banking stuff to arrange with ODSP and I’m so nervous!  I’m seeing my counsellor next Wednesday, so maybe she can help me with it.

My dad has cataract surgery coming up.  He’s not looking forward to it but they said they’d take his driver’s license away if he didn’t have it done, so he’s doing it.  I hope everything goes well for him!

Just thought I’d give you all a quick update on how things are going right now.  Thanks for reading!  Till next time,

— Joyce.

I Didn’t Just Like To Shop I Was Addicted To Binge Shopping | MadameNoire


Binge shopping was a product of my bipolar and borderline personality disorders.

Source: I Didn’t Just Like To Shop I Was Addicted To Binge Shopping  | MadameNoire