Borderline Personality Disorder: Becoming More Than My Disorder Life Stories

Some of the labels I am being given aren’t there to further alienate me but rather to help me seek out the specific help that I need.

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I’m Just Not That Happy | Happily Imperfect

Source: I’m Just Not That Happy | Happily Imperfect

Mental Health Communication Cards | The Upside Down Chronicles

A few months ago I did some work with Hannah Ensor of Stickman Communications to design some communication cards specifically to help people with mental health problems. Hannah is amazing and one o…

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The truth behind (arguably) the most misunderstood personality disorder of our time – Daily Records

Despite being more common than schizophrenia and bipolar disorder combined, borderline personality disorder remains one of the least understood and most stigmatized mental illnesses. It’s so misund…

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Some Days are Just Frustrating | Weightless

Source: Some Days are Just Frustrating | Weightless

When Life Gives You Lemons… – Left Brain Buddha

Source: When Life Gives You Lemons… – Left Brain Buddha

Plagued by Paranoia!

One of the symptoms of BPD that still affects me often is paranoid ideation.  All through elementary and high school, I was made fun of every day.  Now, whenever I see people looking my way and laughing and I can’t hear what they’re saying, I think they’re teasing me.  I can usually talk myself out of it but sometimes I can’t.  When that happens, I do some self-soothing by doing something like listening to music, and try to distract myself until the thoughts subside.

Does anyone have any suggestions for me?  What do you do that helps you deal with paranoid thoughts?  Please let me know in the Comments below.  Thanks!

Till next time,

— Joyce.

Feeding our soul

Emerging From The Dark Night


A question for you.  What did you do today to feed your soul?

When we are down and hurting and when we are concentrating on the pain we have gone through sometimes we forget that there is something we could do to help our soul’s feel comforted in that moment when things are hard.  We could do something to love, care for and nurture ourselves.

Today prompted by reading a lovely meditation my favourite book  Tian Dayton’s One Foot in Front of the Other I thought of the things I did today to feed my soul and I thought of a gratitude practice of listing these things that would mean that the benefit of these lovely experiences could grow within my soul :

Waking I felt the sun streaming through the window, so grateful for its warmth and comfort.

I took a long, slow shower and lingered as long as I could under the comforting…

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Borderline Personality Disorder – A few statistics | Recovery Mum

Source: Borderline Personality Disorder – A few statistics | Recovery Mum

Update 08/18/2016


Screen Shot 2016-08-17 at 11.59.35 PMFirst, I would like to apologize to my followers.  I’m officially settled in living in Boston, and I am now almost finished with my second week at my new job.  Boston is amazing, my job is amazing, and I am finally able to truly help children and families struggling with mental illness.  So I’ve been super busy with training, and meeting with clients as well.  I’ll be back this weekend though! A few people sent me ideas for posts,Screen Shot 2016-08-17 at 11.47.33 PM if you have any topics for me just send me a remind at , and I will get to them this weekend for sure! I hope everyone is doing well, my heart goes out to each and everyone of you❤

oh and P.S.,

Crazy news. I was invited to be on the Dr.Phil show!!!!!!!

It’s funny because as children many of us were often told “you can…

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Moving on | Sunny Spells & Scattered Showers

Realising that I have to take responsibility for the changes I need to make.

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Accepting otherness and separateness

Life in a Bind - BPD and me

caring and separateness in BPD

I wrote these words, and placed them on this image, during the winter of 2014. I think it may have been shortly after writing ‘My borderline mind‘, which itself was written following some very emotionally challenging and intense therapy sessions. They were sessions in which I was testing my therapist, in which I was agonising over  seeing everything through the lens of ‘obsessional attachment’, and in which I was despairing over ever being able to ‘do therapy right’. But they were also the sessions that culminated in the wonderful and precious occasion, described in ‘Waiting revisited‘, when my therapist mentioned her caring for me – something I was so desperate for and had doubted so often.

Though I don’t remember the details of the sessions that followed, I wrote the following to a friend of mine, very shortly after that occasion: “What I am…

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CMHA Central Alberta #5 – BPD Video

A fairly long video but worth watching.  I don’t agree with the Glenn Close part though.

Attachment and Borderline Personality Disorder 2017 Conference | McLean Hospital

Attachment theory, which highlights early infant-caretaker interactions, has had a profound impact on the understanding of mental health and illness. McLean Hospital and Harvard Medical School are delighted to offer this conference in order to bring you the latest information in the field and help you apply it to better help your patients/clients.

Source: Attachment and Borderline Personality Disorder 2017 Conference | McLean Hospital

How Does Borderline Personality Disorder Hurt Thinking Processes? – GoMedClinic

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is associated with a few different problems related to thinking. These cognitive problems often contribute to other symptoms, including relationship problems, …

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Management of Borderline Personality Disorder – Centre for Mental Health Education

Drawing from the evidence base of Dialectical Behaviour Therapy, Mindfulness and Somatic Trauma Therapy this workshop is an interactive two days aimed at providing participants with a range of stra…

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Are These 5 Myths about Emotions Holding You Back? | World of Psychology

We are emotional beings. As complex patterns of internal reactions to external stimuli, emotions are what helped the human species survive. Emotions direct our actions and determine our well-being and health. Whether we are aware of our emotions or not, whether we talk about emotions or not, and whether we recognize their vital importance or not, emotions are an integral part of our lives and have a powerful effect on us. What kind of effect? That all depends on how we manage any given emotion. False assumptions and lack of skills to regulate emotions often get in the way of effectively dealing with them. Although inter-related, challenging false assumptions is a crucial first step of emotion regulation training. Here are five common myths about emotions (derived from Dialectical Behavior Therapy) you’ll want to challenge: Myth #1: There is a right way to feel in every situation If anything is certain, it’s that there’s always more than one way to view a situation. Everyone

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Healing From BPD – Borderline Personality Disorder Blog: 👉👉 TIRED OF SELF-SABOTAGING?! Check this out…👈👈

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Mindfulness keeps me from quitting therapy.

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In my last post, Jocelyn made a comment about quitting therapy, and this reminded me of something important that’s kept me going: mindfulness.

People in therapy, especially people who have cluster B disorders and have problems either regulating or accessing emotion, often quit when the going gets rough.  Narcissists are notorious for quitting therapy (if they ever enter it at all) because of all the Cluster B disorders, NPDs have the most problems allowing themselves to become vulnerable (well, maybe ASPD is even worse that way), but for therapy to work, this cannot be avoided.   This is why people with NPD so rarely get better.  For most, as soon as they start to feel too much, they’re outta there.

For borderlines, it’s a little easier.  We’re not running away from emotions all the time the way narcissists do (although I do to some degree and probably have narcissistic tendencies–I also…

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BPD And Me

Bipolar Borderline

BPD is the initials for borderline personality disorder, for those who are new to this blog or to the world of mental illness. Borderline personality disorder is a disorder that is marked by unstable moods, behaviors, and relationships. It is diagnosed by psychiatrists and other mental health professionals by using 9 characteristics, and a subject must meet at least 5 of those 9 to receive a diagnosis of BPD.

According to the DSM IV, (there is a new revision out, the DSM V), to be diagnosed with BPD, a person must show a pattern of behavior that includes at least 5 of the following:

  • Extreme reactions – including panic, depression, rage, or frantic actions – to abandonment, whether it is real or perceived.
  • A pattern of intense and stormy relationships with friends, family, and loved ones, often veering from extreme closeness and love (idealization) to extreme dislike or anger (devaluation)

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BPD and Emotional Sensitivity

Beautifully Borderline

So if you have BPD, you’ve probably noticed that you may be easily “triggered” into very intense emotions. You may feel uncontrollable at times and even unable to hold back when an emotion hits, leading to impulsiveness. You may blurt things out that you don’t mean, or do something ‘crazy’.

If you know someone with BPD, you may have also noticed this. Though you may be wondering why they react with such intensity at seemingly small things. Or you may simply not understand why they feel so strongly about certain things. Their impulsive acts or “blurts” of words may hurt your feelings, seem misplaces, over-reactive, or just down right unnecessary.

So what’s the deal?

People with BPD have been described as severe burn victims with 3rd degree burns all over their body. We are like open wounds exposed to anything and everything, that even the smallest thing will will cause…

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emotions matter

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What a little penguin has to teach me about my therapy break

Life in a Bind - BPD and me

jill tomlinson20160810_225854the penguin who wanted to find out

At the start of my summer therapy break I bought this wonderful box set of six children’s animal stories by Jill Tomlinson, with the intention of reading one a week during the break. I was introduced to them by one of my children who brought home from school ‘The owl who was afraid of the dark’. He didn’t seem that interested in it, but I loved it; and I saw in its chapters and in the progression of the story, similarities between the little’s owl’s journey from fear to confidence, to the stages of the therapeutic journey. Since then, I have wanted to read the other books in the collection, hoping that they too might contain some important and thought provoking lessons, just as crucial for grown-ups to learn as for children, but presented in a beautifully simple and moving way.

This week, I’m reading ‘The penguin who wanted to…

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Dialectical Behavioral Therapy | BPD Pieces of Me

DBT stands for Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. Its core components are emotion regulation, mindfulness, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness. It’s part of the 3rd Generation of …

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Dialectical Behavioral Therapy

BPD Pieces of Me


Hereis a link to the entire handouts and workbook for the second edition of DBT.

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