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Professor who developed therapy for ‘uncurable’ mental illnesses wins 2017 Grawemeyer Award in Psychology – Insider Louisville
Recently I’ve been having assessments to see if I’d benefit from a therapy programme that uses DBT and Mindfulness. After many worksheets and conversations I have been put forward for a full programme. This means one skills group and one 1:1 session a week for about a year.
What is DBT?
Dialectical Behaviour Therapy is all about breaking down negative and destructive cycles and creating better ways of coping for yourself. It has foundations in Mindfulness and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and allows people to develop a more in depth understanding of their negative thought and behaviour cycles. It involves practical skills of how to take action to avoid dangerous behaviour. It is also about helping you to accept your struggles as part of the make up of who you are, but not your whole definition.
What came over very strongly during the assessments was how much hard work DBT…
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‘Do you have an official diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder / Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder? | Bristol Mind
Having BPD comes with a shit ton of problems and people who try to solve them. I am sure people with depression or other personality disorders can relate so let’s just lay it all out there.
1) Being lonely. I am lonely all the time. I could be surrounded by people and I still don’t want to even look at them. Not because you aren’t beautiful but because I don’t feel like dealing with the social anxiety.
2) Anxiety. Anxiety doesn’t even seem to be the right word it’s more like ‘holy shit the world is ending.’ How do I get through a day without being anxious? Only way I can do it is by looking forward to a glass of wine at the end of the day. Or ice cream.
3) Being needy. This one is extremely personal for me and the reason is is because nobody likes to…
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It isn’t easy to explain what borderline personality disorder is, and how it affects you. But while you suffer from this mental disorder, it is important to talk to your loved ones about it, especially your children.
As a parent, you influence your child’s development not only through your parenting style, but through your every day behaviour. Your child will observe and copy what you do, so it is essential to explain to them why you behave the way you do. They need to know that certain behaviour is not okay, even if mama or papa acts this way. It will help them understand and recognise what behaviour is socially acceptable and healthy, and what is not. But most importantly, they will understand you better, and know that they are not to blame for any of your borderline behaviour. Overall, by explaining what BPD is, the chances of your…
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Life is hell, & living is a nightmare.
I try to remember the things I’ve been taught in my DBT class. Be mindful. Don’t push negative thoughts away. Observe. Tip your temperature. Problem solve. Cope ahead. Check the facts. Participate. Sooth. Distract.
Trying to change the way my mind works has been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. Having no one who knew how to help me in my 28 years of existence, I found my own ways to cope. Unhealthy ways. Screaming, raging, sobbing. Hitting myself, burning myself, scratching myself until I bleed. Hurting myself seems to solve multiple problems. It distracts me from the emotional agony, it shows other people how badly I’m hurting, & it is a way to punish myself.
I can be cruel. I make scathing remarks. I accuse. I beg for forgiveness. I don’t allow myself to trust anybody but my own…
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As I said in my previous post, I’m going to be working on guilt & shame, which are subjects that drive me crazy, I punish myself regularly with these emotions and I seem to take responsibility for everyone else actions in a ‘it must be me, it usually is’ or ‘it’s me who pushes people to act like they do’ ‘it’s all my fault’ which leads to more self hate, punishment and sometimes self harm or self destruct.
I would say it take’s over a lot of my life on a daily basis, it affects how I treat people and how I treat myself. I often feel guilt over things completely out of my control and yet it stays with me for hours, sometimes days, at a time. I have found a really useful explanation for people who are experiencing BPD and feelings of guilt which I have added below. Reading…
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We all know that borderlines have a reputation for being manipulative. It’s a pretty pervasive (and inaccurate) stereotype. There’s a lot to be said about it, but I don’t want this post to get too lengthy. So I’m just going to address a couple of things.
I have heard and read people say that borderlines will use suicide threats to get attention or to get what they want. For example, if they can’t get their therapist to talk to them or if a significant other talks about breaking up with them, a person with BPD might say they want to kill themselves. This is viewed as manipulative, as a tactic for getting our way.
I can’t speak for all borderlines, but that has NEVER been the case for me. What actually happens is that a situation that might not seem extreme to someone else truly does make me want to…
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I grew up in an environment where emotions were often invalidated. At least the “negative” ones like fear, sadness and anger. I was often told to “toughen up”, “shut up or I’ll give you something to cry about”, or teased about my fears. Because of this, I felt a great deal of shame when I experienced emotions and this carried over into my adult life. I learned the unhealthy ways of dealing with emotions by stuffing them, or finding ways to not feel them like substance use. And when I did those things, I felt even more shame. It became a vicious cycle of shame and disgust with myself that I felt trapped in.
Through my therapy work, I’ve come to realize that I don’t need anyone else to validate my emotions anymore. Instead, I’m using the skills I’ve learned from cognitive behavioural therapy to validate myself. Here’s how it…
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If you have a friend or family member with borderline personality disorder, you know the stress of this difficult problem. And you may be at a loss for how you can respond helpfully. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) involves emotional instability, interpersonal difficulties and impulsive
Three months ago I couldn’t imagine feeling the way I do now.
“Emotional discomfort, when accepted, rises, crests and falls in a series of waves.
Each wave washes a part of us away and deposits treasures we never imagined.
Out goes naivete, in comes wisdom;
out goes anger, in comes discernment;
out goes despair, in comes kindness.
No one would call it easy,
but the rhythm of emotional pain that we learn to tolerate
is natural, constructive and expansive…
The pain leaves you healthier than it found you.”
Martha N. Beck
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I believe that, despite what it says here, BPD can be prevented, if you are brought up in a validating environment — Joyce.
Borderline personality disorder is characterized by unstable relationships, emotional dysregulation, self-harm and impulsive behavior.
The above meme pretty much explains the entirety of what this post is about and I could easily leave it at that. But I am just itching right now to talk about this, because I feel like I just accomplished something pretty great–all because I was finally willing to take a big risk, one I normally wouldn’t take: I let go of my fear of rejection long enough to tell someone I’ve grown to care about and like very much (as a friend) the truth about the way I felt about them, instead of skirting around my real feelings and avoiding the subject (but secretly going nuts).
I’ve always assumed (because of my internal programming) that I didn’t deserve to be liked or loved, and used to even push away people I liked through either becoming too needy and demanding (stepping over their boundaries), or too avoidant and…
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People With Severe Personality Disorders Often Overprescribed Drugs By UK Psychiatrists – Health Amazing
Psychiatrists in the UK are disregarding their clinical guidelines when it comes to treating their patients with personality disorders, according to new research published in The Journal of Clinica…