Free Webinar – What is Borderline Personality Disorder? 31st Oct. – Developmental Educators Australia Inc


Source: Free Webinar – What is Borderline Personality Disorder? 31st Oct. – Developmental Educators Australia Inc

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My BPD Recovery Presentation Coming Up at Local Centre


My local Peer Support Centres are having a Celebration of Recovery Day this month.  I have offered to do a presentation on Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder at my Centre.  I want to let people know a little bit about BPD, my recovery story, and that recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder is possible.  I have a board with some things pasted on it for people to look at afterwards to help them understand and remember all about it.  I’ll let you know how it goes.  I don’t know how big a turnout there will be.  With the people at my Centre, you can’t do too long a presentation or else you’ll lose their interest.  I have to get as much information as I can in a short period of time.

I hope that everyone learns a bit about Borderline Personality Disorder from my presentation.  Even if they don’t have it, they may know someone who does.  They can learn how to be a better friend, family member, etc. to the person with BPD.  They can learn a bit about Validation and why it’s important to us.  They can also learn about Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), one of the best treatments for BPD.

Wish me luck!  Till next time,

— Joyce.

Understanding BPD Emotional Manipulation Techniques and How Treatment Can Help – Bridges to Recovery


Source: Understanding BPD Emotional Manipulation Techniques and How Treatment Can Help – Bridges to Recovery

What Exactly Is Borderline Personality Disorder?


Source: What Exactly Is Borderline Personality Disorder?

18 Things to Put in Your Mental Health Crisis Kit | The Mighty


Source: 18 Things to Put in Your Mental Health Crisis Kit | The Mighty

You Don’t Look Like You Have BPD


The Borderline Project

By Mariana

The first time I spoke in front of a crowd about my mental condition a man approached and said “You don’t look like you have BPD”.

People often say I don’t look like I have borderline personality disorder. Whatever that means. Yes, I have a steady job. I live by myself. I pay the bills on time. I’m funny. I seem confident and independent. I am driven. I have had amazing and enriching experiences of all sorts. I have solid friendships. I’m not into drugs. I do yoga. I love caring for others. I read a lot. My cholesterol is low. But it is what happens indoors by myself that might seem less “common” to you.

I make sure I’m alone in the comfort of my own home to release the steam. Sometimes I rush back as quickly as I can because I need to explode. Very…

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Happy Belated Thanksgiving!


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Happy Belated Thanksgiving to all my fellow Canadians!  Hope you had a great holiday.

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Pete Davidson’s brave SNL skit shows mental illness and success aren’t mutually exclusive — Quartz


Source: Pete Davidson’s brave SNL skit shows mental illness and success aren’t mutually exclusive — Quartz

ABC PLEASE Emotion Regulation Skills – Ep. 4f – DBT Peer Connections


Emotion Regulation – PLEASE MASTER – DBT Skill


DBT Skills – PLEASE Master


Some Great Blog Posts and Articles on DBT: Please Master Skills


Here are Some Great Blog Posts and Articles on DBT: Please Master Skills:

https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/dbt-dialectical-behavior-therapy/#worksheets

http://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-worksheets/dbt/none

http://www.mydailydbt.com/2012/12/dbt-build-mastery-skill-self-esteem-sticking-with-things.html

http://www.my-borderline-personality-disorder.com/2012/09/dbt-golden-nugget-build-mastery-skill.html

http://www.my-borderline-personality-disorder.com/2012/08/dbt-PLEASE-skills-Reduce-Emotional-Vulnerability.html

https://healthypsych.com/dialectical-behavior-therapy-dbt-please-mastery-technique-for-emotion-regulation/

https://healthypsych.com/psychology-tools-series/

Next, I will be sharing some great videos on Please Master skills.  Stay tuned!

— Joyce.

What it’s like to live with two personality disorders | Metro News


As stated in the Comments in the article, I believe that Bipolar is a mood disorder.  Excellent article still:

Source: What it’s like to live with two personality disorders | Metro News

Reviewing My “Please Master” DBT Skills


I started thinking, I’m so burnt out, what can I do about it?  I thought that reviewing my “Please Master” DBT skills would help so that’s what I’m doing right now.  I’ll be sharing some useful things I’ve found shortly.  Stay tuned!

— Joyce

Burnout


I have just read an article calling “emotional exhaustion” “burnout.”  It was in reference to DBT therapists getting burnt out by counselling people with BPD.  They now usually train DBT therapists to be on a team, meeting regularly, to prevent burnout.  This in beneficial to both parties – both the therapists and the patients.  I am feeling very burnt out with my husband.  I don’t know how to describe it to him.  It feels different than physical exhaustion (although I feel that too).

From http://sophia.stkate.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1338&context=msw_papers:

Burnout is defined as “exhaustion of physical or emotional strength or motivation
usually as a result of prolonged stress or frustration” (Merriam Webster Dictionary, 2013).  In terms of what burnout can look like in individuals, it has been suggested that burnout is made up of three separate areas: “emotional exhaustion, depersonalization, and reduced personal accomplishment” (Maslach & Leiter, 1997 as cited in Newell & MacNeil, 2011, p. 27).  Broken down further, “burnout includes psychological and/or physiological exhaustion, a negative shift in responses to others, and a negative response toward oneself and toward personal accomplishments, and that burnout is a response to emotional strain.

DBT is not just a therapy it’s a mindset and a way if life. I have truly enjoyed growing
with my patients while learning this together through all the trial and errors. I use DBT as often as I can, I try to make a point to schedule it into my daily life (particularly mindfulness) and the great thing is that I get to share all that with my patients and colleagues and we are there to support each other through.

They allow me to continue to work effectively without burning out. They also help me recognize when I am feeling burned out and provide me with concrete ways to manage emotions and problem solve in a compassionate and validating manner.

They are “life” skills, so they are so easily transferrable to day to day stressors. By
teaching them on a regular basis, I owe it to my clients to practice what I preach. I feel grateful to know the skills to help keep my stress from rarely becoming unmanageable.

I find this study very fascinating.  Now, if only it could help me in my marriage!

Just thought I would pass along this information.  I love sharing information with my readers.  Till next time,

— Joyce.

Emotional Energy


I am having a hard time right now.  This is very hard for me to write.  My husband says that we don’t do things together anymore.  I have no emotional energy to do anything.  It’s not just physical, it’s emotional.  I don’t know if it’s a woman thing or just a Joyce thing.  I need to talk to my doctor about it.  I wish I still had my counsellor to talk to about it but I don’t have her anymore.  I have the staff at the local Peer Support Centre to talk to.  I might have to do that.  I have been thinking of writing this post for a long time now.  I am so out of shape.  That doesn’t help anything.  My doctor is no help when it comes to that.  I eat right, I walk every day.  Walking is supposed to be the best exercise, from what I keep hearing.  I feel like crying every day but I can’t.  I’m convinced that my meds are numbing me out.  I’ve asked my doctor about cutting down on them but she says that it’s taken a long time to get the dosage just right where I am at a fairly “normal” baseline of emotions.  I think I need to ask her about cutting down on them again.  Sorry for rambling on but I can’t take this emotional exhaustion anymore!  I feel so bad, so guilty for not being there for my husband like he needs me too.  I have to think about me too, though.  I don’t want to just please him no matter how exhausted I am.  I have shopping to do and it’s the middle of the night.  I wish I could just get some sleep!  I only get 2-3 hours of sleep a night during the week and then on the weekends, I crash and sleep the whole weekend away pretty much.  I hate it!

I just felt like I needed to share my story.  Recovery is not a perfectly straight line.  Speaking of that, this month my local Peer Support Centre is having a special Celebrate Recovery Day.  People are going to tell their recovery stories.  Last year, I told mine.  I’m thinking of doing it again this year.  Telling all about the ups and downs of recovery, that it is possible but it’s not a perfectly straight line.  Thank you to anyone who has read this far!  I know that some people will think that I am not trying as hard as I should.  I have been trying so hard for so long.  I know that someday this will pass.

Our kids used to go to my parents’ for the night about once a month, and my husband and I would have a night off to ourselves.  That hasn’t happened for the last few years.  I don’t see it happening any time soon.  Our son is 15 so he can occupy himself just fine.  But I feel guilty spending too much “couple time” with my husband, if you know what I mean.

My husband doesn’t sleep well either.  He is usually up all night, then sleeps in in the mornings.  When he goes to bed, I’m just getting up.  I like to get stuff done during the day.  Later, he’s just getting up so he has energy but I’ve been up all day and am physically and emotionally exhausted.  I have absolutely no energy.  And I have to make supper and put away laundry and dishes.

I debated with myself for so long about whether to write this or not but I just couldn’t hold it in any longer.  I don’t know if sharing this will help anyone else feel less alone or not.  I hope so.

I keep reminding myself and others – recovery is not linear, but it is possible.  I am in recovery right now.  I know I am just having a bit of a rough time at the moment and I will make it through.  My husband and I have been through a lot together in the last twenty years and we’ll make it through this too.  For the last few years, things have been a little cold between us.  We were like two ships passing in the night.  Then last fall I started feeling better.  My husband is worried about things getting cold between us again.  It’ll get better.  I know it will.  I just don’t want to please him while I am just not into “couple time”  I want to have the physical and emotional energy to enjoy myself too.

Enough rambling!  Thanks for listening to anyone who’s made it this far.  I want to be honest in this blog.  I’m curious to know if this post resonated with anyone.  What do you do to cope?  How do you balance your needs vs. your significant other’s needs?  Till next time,

— Joyce.

PS:  My nerves are so bad right now!  Thinking about this, and is my new book going to sell a single copy?  Is it good enough?  I’m working on another, bigger writing project right now.  It won’t be finished for quite some time.  I have a lot of rewriting and editing to do on it.  In DBT, they teach you things like getting enough sleep helps you regulate your emotions better.  I have been trying to do that.  I need to review my DBT binders.  Like I said, I’ll make it through.  Thanks again for listening!

The Importance of Getting the Right Treatment for You | HuffPost


Source: The Importance of Getting the Right Treatment for You | HuffPost

Borderline Personality Disorder Makes it Hard to Identify My Emotions | The Mighty


Source: Borderline Personality Disorder Makes it Hard to Identify My Emotions | The Mighty

Difference between a Highly Sensitive Person and Borderline Personality Disorder | The Exhausted Woman


It’s so important to not self-diagnose!

Source: Difference between a Highly Sensitive Person and Borderline Personality Disorder | The Exhausted Woman

The Harmful Effects of Ignoring Low-Grade Trauma. | elephant journal


Source: The Harmful Effects of Ignoring Low-Grade Trauma. | elephant journal

Book Review: Bullied


Full title:  “Bullied:  What Every Parent, Teacher and Kid Needs to Know About Ending The Cycle of Fear” by Carrie Goldman

I loved this book!  Especially this part:  “Kesha Burch-Sims…in her Chicago-based clinical psychology practice…told me…’Victims have prolonged difficulty with their own identities and how to fit in and socialize appropriately.  They learn behaviors to compensate for their experience of being victims, and these behaviors in adulthood give them trouble.  Their adjustment to life is painful.’ ”

This book has some great chapters, including:  “The Harmful Effects of Bullying on the Brain” and “Social and Emotional Learning”  There are also some great resources at the back of the book.

This book spoke to me because I was bullied all through school.  I firmly believe that it greatly contributed to my developing Borderline Personality Disorder.  It’s even worse for kids nowadays than it was when I went to school.  Nowadays you have cyberbullying 24/7.  In my day, for most kids, the bullying ended when you got home from school.  Although mine continued.  A lot of the kids I went to school with lived in the same town as me and bullied me after school as well.  It was all verbal bullying but it totally destroyed my self-esteem.  We need books like this to help us deal with bullying.

One day, I was beaten up by the bullies at school.  The principal called me, the bullies and our parents to his office and made the bullies apologize.  Then he asked me if everything was okay now.  I quietly said “Yes.”  I was being bullied.  What was I going to say?  That it wasn’t all right?  When people get bullied they have no self-esteem.  I wasn’t going to say that it wasn’t all right.  I am doing a lot better now, after years of therapy.

I highly recommend this book.  It should be in every county library and school library.  It would be excellent for parents to purchase.  Check it out today!

Buy it here:  https://www.amazon.ca/Bullied-Every-Parent-Teacher-Ending/dp/0062105086/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1507262757&sr=1-1

– – Joyce.

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Borderline Personality Disorder: Best Practice Treatment for Adolescents Tickets, Mon, 13/11/2017 at 6:30 pm | Eventbrite


Source: Borderline Personality Disorder: Best Practice Treatment for Adolescents Tickets, Mon, 13/11/2017 at 6:30 pm | Eventbrite

Not Sure How to Respond? Take These 5 Steps to Assess Your Feelings


Source: Not Sure How to Respond? Take These 5 Steps to Assess Your Feelings

22 Things People With Borderline Personality Disorder Want You To Stop Saying


Number 19 really speaks to me:

Source: 22 Things People With Borderline Personality Disorder Want You To Stop Saying

How to Set Boundaries When You Are a Highly Sensitive Person | Happily Imperfect


Source: How to Set Boundaries When You Are a Highly Sensitive Person | Happily Imperfect