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The “Invisible” Mental Illness: Borderline Personality Disorder – Affinity Magazine | For The Social Teen
Mental illness: for many, a taboo subject- something condemned, never to even be mentioned because God knows what could happen if that information enters the wrong hands. But for others, it is something to embrace, a part
I was invited into my old IOP group today as a kind of “guest speaker.” If *I* can get better, then anyone can. Seriously. I have carried diagnoses of Major Depression, Borderline, PTSD, and Anorexia Nervosa. And that’s just in the past couple of years. I’ve also (at one-time-or-another) been diagnosed with Bipolar and DID. And those are just the ones that come to mind. There was a woman in the room who looked particularly compromised. I knew right away that she was the one who my group leader had wanted me to address. So he motions to her and asks me to “tell her it can get better.” I looked into her eyes… or I tried. She was crying. She was rocking. She was me. I gave her a brief history of myself, and then told her what I’m going to tell you: It’s not gonna get better today. Or tomorrow. Probably not the next day, either. But it WILL get better. As a nurse, I have spent a large portion of my professional career working with people who have cognitive limitations, and now that *I*
The following videos are included in the powerpoint presentation for AMI-Quebec’s information session Introduction to Borderline Personality Disorder. Please click on the blue links below to view the videos (will open in a new window). Click HERE for more information about this information session. A new date will be announced …
What BPD is to me.
At my worst, I am careless, recklessness and impulsive. The consequences don’t matter, only the good times you’re enjoying. Until it’s over, you stop can reflect on what has happened and what damage has been done. Then the consequences of your impulsive reckless selfishness do matter and you feel terrible.
This is why you feel that you are understood, why you have such poor self-esteem and are sensitive to even the most constructive of criticisms. You have all the knowledge about your condition and the effect it has on you, but all you want is to be validated. Someone to say that can see all the good things you do, portray you in a positive light and make you feel good about yourself again.
That can only go on for so long, eventually it wears off and you are left alone with your fluctuating moods. You are irritable, the world is unfair, the people you like don’t give you enough of the things you want from them and the only rational response you can come up with is self-harming. That will get me the things I want, I can manipulate people into loving me more and caring for me more that way.
But that is just the excuses and dysfunction that BPD comes with. We have to be aware of why our relationships are so intense and try to better understand our feelings towards ourselves and other people.
Managing your responses and behaviour is incredibly tough, especially when you are feeling tired and vulnerable, but you have be mindful about the stress that you are dealing with and have ways to remove yourself from uncomfortable situations.
You can learn to cope with BPD. You pick up so much about compassion and empathy in observing how other people around you survive.
No matter how perfect someone may seem to be to you, you can’t live your life through them. You have to learn to validate and feel yourself, not rely on nice caring sensitive people to do it for you.
My name is Patrick Flynn. I am 33 years old. I have BPD. My aim is to share my experiences positive and negative as much as possible, to raise awareness about BPD in my community and mental health issues in general.
By encouraging others to get help and support, to better understand people with BPD and how to cope with it as quickly and effectively as possible.
I just want to do what I can to help, if you have BPD or know someone who does, please ask me anything. You can overcome it.
19-year-old Nikki opens up about her experience with the condition
My boss has given me permission to begin research in the hopes of creating a program for Mom’s with BPD improve their relationship with their children and themselves. I am preparing a survey and in the meantime, I wanted to reach out here! If you do not already know me, I am a Mom who experiences borderline traits.
There is a lot of research out there that bashes Moms who experience BPD. Resources for Moms with BPD are scarce and I want to change that! If you feel comfortable, please leave a response in the comments below or you can wait for the survey as it is anonymous.
Who am I looking to hear from:
- Moms who have BPD, borderline traits or believe they have BPD and have never been officially diagnosed.
- Moms (of any age child)
- Pregnant, first-time moms
- Women who would like to be moms
What I would like…
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Amy’s Boarderline World – Borderline Personality Disorder – What I wish I was told – Amy’s Boarderline World
The skills that I’m learning in therapy have actually started to become easier to ingrain in my everyday life. So much so that I find myself being able to subconsciously deal with situations …
Borderline Personality Disorder Doesn’t Mean ‘Crazy’, It Means Wearing Your Heart On Your Sleeve Every Day | Thought Catalog
I don’t know if Angelina Jolie or Amy Winehouse have/had BPD or not but I believe that Princess Diana and Marilyn Monroe both suffered from the disorder.
My greatest apologies go out to those who I’ve lost due to my disorder because they didn’t deserve it. Just like a diabetic is responsible for checking their blood sugar, I am responsible for check…
A hard read at times but very accurate as to what many people with BPD go through every day.
Tracking 24 hours with BPD – See the key below:
00:01 – Many people ‘like’ the artwork I’ve uploaded. I feel good. I feel purposeful
03:17 – Caffeine fuelled neutrality. Getting the shakes, but achieving stuff at the same time. Progress is slow but I feel like I’m actually getting somewhere
04:56 – I can feel my mood creeping lower. Suicidal thoughts have been plaguing me more and more recently. I’m terrified of going to sleep. I scared of the quiet, of being alone with my thoughts
05:45 – I guess I should sleep soon, but I can’t stop thinking about the disintegration of my past relationships and how everything was my fault
07:10 – 13:05 SLEEP: woke up six times and struggled to get back to sleep
13:10 – I am nothing. I feel nothing. I am an empty shell. I am just ghosting; soon I’ll disappear…
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For some reason, I’m not being allowed to reply to comments people have posted on my video below. If you have posted a comment and I haven’t replied, I apologize. I’m not sure how to fix it, but I’ll try to figure it out. Please enjoy, and I hope you find it informative:
Living with BPD can mean many things to many people. Here’s one experience of what its like living with Borderline Personality Disorder.
Preventing Self-Harm in Individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder Tickets, Thu, 11 May 2017 at 19:00 | Eventbrite
The aim of this talk is to give practitioners a framework for working with clients engaging in repeated self-harm, and present an overview of interventions clients have found helpful when trying to engage in alternative behaviours. Specifically, this talk will present new findings from research which asked individuals with borderline personality disorder symptomatology about what they find helpful and unhelpful when trying to prevent self-harm. This will be presented within a framework outlining a path to self-harm and how this can be interrupted. A new structured approach to identifying potential interventions tailored to an individual will be discussed, with the opportunity for practitioners to try this approach during the workshop. The session will finish with a specific look at techniques that work supported by case material. About Our Speaker: Dr Julia Noble is a Chartered Counselling Psychologist based in Manchester, working in the National Health Service and private healthcare with individuals with complex and enduring difficulties. Julia has a keen research interest in the areas of personality disorders and self-harm, maintaining a critical perspective towards diagnosis and interventions. She also lectures on the University of Manchester Counselling Psychology doctorate programme.
A year ago today I was terrified of being alone. Today I value my time alone and feel like I am enough without anyone else.
Boundaries are something that in essence, everyone knows about. You know that you probably shouldn’t greet a potential parent in-law with a hearty butt-smack and a wink. You know that it might not be advisable to give the widow a ‘wet willy’ at a funeral. You also know it’s probably not great to give your partner a slideshow presentation listing in graphic detail all of the socks you’ve lost to the Battle of the Tumble Dryer.
In other words boundaries are set by everyone, for a huge number of things, to ensure that what they do is appropriate for the situation. It is also being aware of the right amount of information to disclose with another person depending on your relationship with them.
To someone with emotional sensitivity, or Borderline Personality Disorder, this can be especially challenging as it can be difficult to even recognise that your boundaries are a bit…
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