Well, today I did my group at a Peer Support Centre in a different town about an hour away. I was told by the lady who runs the centre plus the worker who drove me there that I did a great job. There were a few extra people there so I was pretty nervous, but I think I did very well. I am a really quiet person by nature but I spoke loudly enough for everyone to hear me. I provided everyone with a few handouts in duotangs for them to keep. One lady said that they could keep hers at the Centre in case anyone wanted to look at it. I thought that was a great idea.
They want me to come back maybe once a month and run my group. That would be great! It would be even better if it was once a week, but I’ll take whatever I can get. The Peer Support worker who drove me there also brought a couple of other ladies – one who regularly attends and a new lady.
I’m already thinking about what I can do for the next group. I think I have a topic picked out. Wish me luck! Thanks,
Titles: “And This Is My Adopted Daughter” and “Crossing The Borderline: Inside A Therapeutic Community” by Polly Fielding
The first book describes Polly’s life being brought up by a very invalidating adoptive mother. No matter how hard she tries to please her, she never succeeds. At first, things are fine, then they turn sour. Her father is no help to her. Polly always comes in second to her mother’s “real” daughter. They adopt another baby, further invalidating Polly. She tries to raise her kids to feel the love that she never felt from her adopted mother. She attempts to find her biological mother. I won’t spoil for you what happens but you’ll want to find out for yourself.
The second book looks at her life inside a Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) program. She uses a lot of mindfulness throughout the book. It doesn’t use a lot of the same techniques that we used in my DBT program, but it was interesting to read about Polly’s experience in therapy.
In both books, I could feel Polly’s sadness from such an upbringing. By the end of the second book, Polly emerges triumphantly from the clutches of mental illness, still fighting but now knowing some tools to help her in the fight for wellness.
These books are a very hard read at times and may be triggering, so read with caution. If you really want to know what it’s like to live with Borderline Personality Disorder, this book will show you. It’s not for the faint of heart, though.
I’m going to be doing a presentation/group on BPD in another town at one of the other Peer Support Centres on Friday. I’m so excited but nervous! I’ve never done one at another centre before. I’m not sure what to expect. They say it’s a little smaller centre than ours. We have a separate room that we run some of our groups in, but they don’t have that there. That’s okay. It’ll be fine, I’m sure.
I’d love it if they enjoy the group and would like to join it regularly. Right now, there’s only one person who shows up regularly. I’ll be getting a ride with one of the staff, someone who just got hired a little while ago. They just hired a bunch of new people for all the centres. They’re going to be doing stuff out in the community.
Wish me luck Friday! Thanks for reading,